My friends are saying that I should lower my standards because they think my standards are too high. But I think my standards are not high at all because all I want is a woman that is lean and in shape that plays video games and watches anime.

I do not want a woman that is overweight or obese that goes to clubs, does recreational drugs and drinks alcohol on the weekends.

Because I hate going to clubs because those places are to loud and noisy and I think doing recreational drugs and drinking alcohol is not healthy in my opinion.

  • AFK BRB Chocolate@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    At the risk of making a serious reply in a shitpost thread…

    Who you’re attracted to and what you’re looking for is subjective. No one else gets a say in what that is.

    However, there are repercussions. The more rare what you’re looking for is, the harder it is to find. The more broadly desired what you’re looking for is, the more you’re competing with other people.

    So sure, go looking for what you want, but be aware that you might be looking a long time, and they might not be interested in you.

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    I mean…sure, you can pick and choose all you want, but you yourself gotta match your preference, i.e. you yourself must be lean and in shape.

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    Yes. It sounds like you’re talking about the features you’re on the lookout for in a used car, which comes off as creepy.

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      But how is it creepy to only want a woman that has the same hobbies and interests as me?

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        You asked, I answered. Do you want to know what people think about your standards or not? I agree with your friends. I’m not equipped to help you demystify your feelings towards women, but I think a good place to start is by examining why these things are such deal breakers to you. Is the presence of these qualities the only things you find attractive, regardless of any other factors? Because that’s not how people typically view attractiveness.

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          If you think that my standards for women are too high than that’s fine. We’ll just have to agree to disagree on that.

          The reason why these things are a deal breaker to me is because I’m a very introverted man that prefers to play video games and watch anime all day everyday.

          I do not like going to clubs, parties, bars because those places are really loud and noisy.

          So if a woman likes going to clubs and parties. Than I cannot date her because clubs and parties really drain me too much.

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            Anime and video games to the exclusion of everything else? Are those the only two options? What about reading and movies? Or knitting and podcasts?

            If all you do is look for reasons not to date somebody, then that is all you’re going to see.

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              If a woman is into reading books, watching movies or knitting and podcasts than that fine.

              But if she likes going to clubs, doing recreational drugs and drinking alcohol every weekend than that is a big deal breaker for me

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                That standard is fine. Leave the rest out and do things you like in social settings and bip bop boop, you’ve found somebody who’d rather be with you than at a club, even if all you do is watch anime, or she sits on the couch and watches you play video games. Be open to your ideal looking different from what you expected.

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    Yes. For me it comes down to two things:

    1. Do I get on and have fun with this person?
    2. Am I attracted to them?

    I don’t think you need to be so specific with your requirements. If they don’t like Anime, then that shouldn’t be a deal breaker. As long as they’re not forcing you to stop watching /liking those things, you can like different things.

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      But the reason why those things are a deal breaker for me is because I want a woman that I can play video games with and watch anime together in my 1 bedroom condo.

      I don’t care if a woman is 18 years old or if she is 50 years old. Aslong as she is a hardcore gamer and a anime fan and she is not obese or anorexic. Because there are hot 50 year old woman in my opinion.

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        Wow ok. So even if you met an amazing woman you got on with, if she didn’t have play video games or watch Anime you’d reject them? Seriously, you need to think of your priorities before you enter any serious relationship because it doesn’t sound like many of them are gonna end well

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          Yeah I don’t care if she is the most beautiful woman on earth and she is super into me. If she is not a hardcore gamer and a anime fan. Then I will not date her.

          Because I want a woman that I can play video games with and watch anime together in my 1 bedroom condo.

          If all I wanted was a beautiful woman I would rather just pay a very beautiful sex worker to have sex with me.

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    If you really are a tren goblin you should stop taking unhealthy recreational drugs before you worry about drugs other people use. Like another user said, don’t expect anything you can’t bring to the table for them.

    Also, the health of recreational drug use varies wildly. Having one drink of alcohol each night is different to getting very drunk every friday and saturday is different to going on cocaine benders every weekend is different to smoking a bit of weed after work is different to tripping on shrooms once or twice a month. Some of those have huge negative side effects on health, some have zero impact.

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      I don’t take any PEDS my username is just a joke.

      I believe that recreational drugs and alcohol even in moderation is not healthy. Its just my opinion if you disagree with me then that fine. We’ll just have to agree to disagree on that.

      As far what do I bring to table. I can offer a woman a very loving loyal man. I will compliment her about her appearance everyday and tell her how amazing I think she is and I will never look at another woman sexually ever again.

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        I agree even a little bit of alcohol is unhealthy, but that’s backed up by the science on the topic. Classic psychedelics (shrooms, lsd, mescaline) are extremely safe tho, less impactful to health than an unhealthy meal. If health is that important to you, at least have a consistent and evidence based perspective on it.

        Complimenting appearance everyday is a misguided thing to promise, it’s better to compliment things people have more direct control over, and it’s better to understand the person and their love languages and show love in a way that they’ll appreciate the most. Never looking at another woman sexually is an impossible standard which you’re better off not promising.

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          I don’t know anything about psychedelics (shrooms, lsd, mescaline) but if those are extremely safe than I guess I would be okay with a woman taking those things in moderation.

          As far as me complimenting her on her appearance everyday. I guess you’re right it is better to compliment her on things she has more direct control over.

          And as far as me promising her never to look at another woman sexually ever again. I guess I should clarify what I mean byThat when I say that I will never look at another woman sexually what I really mean is that I will never jerk off to another woman ever again. The only woman that I will jerk off to is her and my waifu’s.

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    Considering this is posted in LemmyShitPost, I can only assume that this is just a troll-post.

    Because otherwise OP is an absolute clown.