My friends are saying that I should lower my standards because they think my standards are too high. But I think my standards are not high at all because all I want is a woman that is lean and in shape that plays video games and watches anime.
I do not want a woman that is overweight or obese that goes to clubs, does recreational drugs and drinks alcohol on the weekends.
Because I hate going to clubs because those places are to loud and noisy and I think doing recreational drugs and drinking alcohol is not healthy in my opinion.
You asked, I answered. Do you want to know what people think about your standards or not? I agree with your friends. I’m not equipped to help you demystify your feelings towards women, but I think a good place to start is by examining why these things are such deal breakers to you. Is the presence of these qualities the only things you find attractive, regardless of any other factors? Because that’s not how people typically view attractiveness.
If you think that my standards for women are too high than that’s fine. We’ll just have to agree to disagree on that.
The reason why these things are a deal breaker to me is because I’m a very introverted man that prefers to play video games and watch anime all day everyday.
I do not like going to clubs, parties, bars because those places are really loud and noisy.
So if a woman likes going to clubs and parties. Than I cannot date her because clubs and parties really drain me too much.
Anime and video games to the exclusion of everything else? Are those the only two options? What about reading and movies? Or knitting and podcasts?
If all you do is look for reasons not to date somebody, then that is all you’re going to see.
If a woman is into reading books, watching movies or knitting and podcasts than that fine.
But if she likes going to clubs, doing recreational drugs and drinking alcohol every weekend than that is a big deal breaker for me
That standard is fine. Leave the rest out and do things you like in social settings and bip bop boop, you’ve found somebody who’d rather be with you than at a club, even if all you do is watch anime, or she sits on the couch and watches you play video games. Be open to your ideal looking different from what you expected.