The sentiment in question is a response to someone else being weirded out and posting it online… No one is seeking validation lol they’re asserting that it’s normal.
People who act creepy and take videos or pictures of someone out doing something alone and posting it online are the weird ones.
This context should be obvious
Context doesn’t matter when lonely people are seeking a dopamine hit through a false sense of moral / intellectual superiority.
Bad takes drive engagement and the dopamine hits from engagement makes life under hyper atomized late stage capitalism slightly less depressing.
I’ve been going out alone to all kinds of places for years. Nobody blinks an eye.
One time I went alone to a restaurant on Valentine’s Day and somebody paid for my meal. I wasn’t even lonely.
Everyone in here saying how fun going to the movies alone is. Idk. I’ve done it before, it was pretty lame. I’d way rather go with a friend and have someone to talk about the movie with. Going all alone sucks.
On the other hand, I’m autistic and have no frame of reference for some of the things I want to do. How can I just show somewhere alone without knowing the social norms?
As long as you aren’t talking to yourself loudly in the theater or eating popcorn at a volume comparable to the Dolby, literally nobody will fucking care. In both cases, the solution is to close your god damned mouth.
Most people aren’t paying any attention to you at all. Unless you’re being loud or making a lot of quick movements they probably don’t even notice you beyond the generic recognition that another person is present.
I go to restaurants, concerts and other shit by myself all the time. I go some Sporting events by myself, even out of town. In fact, I’m going to take a nostalgia road trip and watch an indoor soccer match.
I don’t go to the movies at all, fuck that industry - and I say that as someone who met his wife working at a movie theater. But restaurants, I eat solo all the time. There are dozens of us!
Advice I’ve given my wife and my kids. Never make plans with anyone to do anything that you aren’t happy to do alone.
Dinner? I’ll eat alone
Movie? I’ll watch it alone
Wife isn’t in the mood? I’ll just lay in bed and beat it next to her.
Hiking trip? Alone in nature is great.
Worst case scenario you still get to go have fun. Middle case, next time that person asks about doing something you get to remind them about all the fun you had without them.
Some hikes shouldn’t be done alone.
Also this seems like it’s gearing you towards selfish thinking which can set you up to be more isolated and lonely as a person.
I gear towards joining in things that others I like the company of want to do. I get to hang out with them while doing some activity, and they get to enjoy that activity. Of course, if I’m going to invite someone to something, it’s most often going to be something I can enjoy myself. If it requires others I just check with my friends on who’s interested and do followups with them to reduce barriers and increase their chances of making it.
That sounds like gearing yourself towards needing the validation of others to enjoy anything.
I’m not saying always do things alone, I’m saying make plans with the knowledge that the other participants might not show up. I’m not going to plan something that is reliant on others to happen, others could be there or might not, I’ll still go on the activity
So you never make plans you aren’t happy to do alone just to make your loved one’s day? Like I’m not crazy about X band, but my husband loves them, so getting tickets and taking him is something I do for him. But I’d never go to that alone.
One of these things is not like the others
Yeah, hiking is the only one done out in nature.
But is it?
Secluded nature wank
Is the secluded bit a requirement???
For me it’s a preference.
Going to restaurants alone is one of my favourite things. All the same food and drink, but you can just enjoy it quietly and not have to keep up with conversation.
They aren’t asking for permission. They are asking for attention.
I want to go to the comfy movies but all the seating is loveseat couches. I might have to share that with a stranger. So anyways I heard WoW is good again?
The ones I go to have armrests that fold down. No need to share with others.
Ooh so I can pretend they don’t exist. I like that.
I always see movies alone. Preferably early in the day in a deserted theatre if possible. Movies are very much a ‘me time’ activity. I go at least twice a week with my unlimited movie pass.
It’s just not needed to drag someone else along, especially if they aren’t as interested in the movie to begin with.
Eh, went to my first concert by myself. Lost my spot when I had to pee and got to watch my favorite band from side stage.
One of my first jobs was at a movie theater, back when you had to physically splice film reels together. Doing so meant you had to watch the whole thing for quality assurance…so I saw every new film at 0300 in an empty theater and it was fantastic. Going to a movie with other people around feels weird and cramped
How I saw all the lotr films
Going to a spa alone is just weird tho. That feels like a couples or group thing
Only if you care. I went to the local spa alone a number of times to have a decompression day in particularly stressful periods, never thought twice about it.
What? I feel the opposite you have big tourist energy when you show up there with a group, couples sure but I feel the spa is closer to a doctor visit or a haircut. You need the whole gang there?
From a business perspective, any customers please
raises head
“Money”
puts head back down
there is literally nothing stopping you.
Except my obligations. I’m a parent with kids, so if I want to go somewhere alone, I need to get my SO on board and/or get a babysitter.
I know this is targeted at single people, but single people also have obligations and preferences that stop them from doing things alone.
Ok, breeder
Normalise not finding exceptions to every single fuckin thing people say on the internet
I’m married and eat alone regularly on work trips.
Sorry, but nobody asked - that is a completely unrelated issue. It’s not about not having time.
The point of this post is that if you have no one to accompany you somewhere, you can just go alone, nobody cares - only you.
Sure, and that’s a given, no?
My point is that if someone isn’t doing something things alone, they don’t necessarily feel awkward, they could have other reasons to not go, and saying “but I have no-one to go with” may just be a socially acceptable excuse that they use to hide the real reason they don’t want to go.
Your point is not related to the subject at all. What do you not understand? The person in the screenshot does not address you or your like, they address specifically people not going places alone for fear of people looking odd at them, even though nobody cares.
You’re not in the picture, get over it.
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”I’m gonna go watch this movie you don’t care about”
“Cool”
“Bye”
It’s not complicated and works both ways.
Yup, my SO does that sometimes, especially for Marvel movies because I’m tired of them.
