Also this seems like it’s gearing you towards selfish thinking which can set you up to be more isolated and lonely as a person.
I gear towards joining in things that others I like the company of want to do. I get to hang out with them while doing some activity, and they get to enjoy that activity. Of course, if I’m going to invite someone to something, it’s most often going to be something I can enjoy myself. If it requires others I just check with my friends on who’s interested and do followups with them to reduce barriers and increase their chances of making it.
That sounds like gearing yourself towards needing the validation of others to enjoy anything.
I’m not saying always do things alone, I’m saying make plans with the knowledge that the other participants might not show up. I’m not going to plan something that is reliant on others to happen, others could be there or might not, I’ll still go on the activity
So you never make plans you aren’t happy to do alone just to make your loved one’s day? Like I’m not crazy about X band, but my husband loves them, so getting tickets and taking him is something I do for him. But I’d never go to that alone.
Some hikes shouldn’t be done alone.
Also this seems like it’s gearing you towards selfish thinking which can set you up to be more isolated and lonely as a person.
I gear towards joining in things that others I like the company of want to do. I get to hang out with them while doing some activity, and they get to enjoy that activity. Of course, if I’m going to invite someone to something, it’s most often going to be something I can enjoy myself. If it requires others I just check with my friends on who’s interested and do followups with them to reduce barriers and increase their chances of making it.
That sounds like gearing yourself towards needing the validation of others to enjoy anything.
I’m not saying always do things alone, I’m saying make plans with the knowledge that the other participants might not show up. I’m not going to plan something that is reliant on others to happen, others could be there or might not, I’ll still go on the activity
So you never make plans you aren’t happy to do alone just to make your loved one’s day? Like I’m not crazy about X band, but my husband loves them, so getting tickets and taking him is something I do for him. But I’d never go to that alone.