My wife and I each have our own cars, but they’re both in her name so she can drive whatever the fuck she wants.
So if they were both in your name she couldn’t?
I know that is not probably not what you are saying, but that is the implication of this argumentation
Not hard to put both vehicles in both names. I don’t think they are “arguing” anything, just stating a legal fact about marital property.
Why are there so many question marks??? That’s not how questions work??????
multiple question marks give a different tone
Bad news for you, punctuation is descriptive not prescriptive
The kids are our deciding factor.
If one of us going somewhere with the little 'uns, then the “family car” with the nicer booster seats gets taken by whoever it is that has them. Whoever is getting the peace and quiet, drives the little runabout.
I usually take the little car, and it surprises me sometimes when I jump into the family car and I’ve got another 50bhp under my right foot.
That’s what we do too.
Who wants.to adjust the seat and mirrors every time they drive?
It’s not a big deal. My SO and I are very different heights (like a foot/35cm), and it takes all of 10 seconds:
- slide seatbelt adjustor up/down
- move seat forward/backward
- adjust mirrors
We do it like 2-3x/week, and as the taller person, I’m totally capable of doing the adjustments while driving out of the neighborhood. It’s really a non-issue.
My wife and I are just the right height difference that the little flicky switch on the internal mirror will swap between the angles each of us need.
One day we got a car that has some auto light filtering for night driving and it doesn’t have the switch. Can’t wait to sell it.
You could just replace the mirror, it’s not normally that difficult to swap out
I don’t like the rest of the car either 😅
When I drive my girlfriend’s SUV, I have to stand outside of it and work the controls until I’ve got enough room to get in. It’s not awful, but does kind of suck on hot summer days when I just want to be in the air conditioning.
Our old (2006) minivan has an electronic adjustor, so I just hold that down while getting in (butt in seat, press button, swing legs). Our other car (2007 sedan) is even easier, since I just tap the adjustment bar under the seat and it slides back as I’m sitting on it (again, sideways). Then I adjust the shoulder seat-belt just before grabbing the belt to buckle, then I adjust the rear-view mirror while checking as I back up. It’s pretty smooth and routine.
Our AC takes a while to turn on anyway, so I don’t expect any AC until I’m at least a mile or so down the road. We park in the shade (garage at home and work), so I don’t need the AC anyway when setting out.
They must be similar sizes.
My wife and I happen to use the same seat position and wheel position, so we just have to adjust the rear view mirror and during the time of year when it’s really hot/cold maybe adjust the vents to how we each like. Takes like 5 seconds to adjust
I just angle the back and slide the seat and i am good to go. It’s all analogue, quick and easy.
Maybe they just hit a button (1, 2)
Don’t even need to hit it sometimes - the profile often goes with the key fob too.
Yeah but if they’re just grabbing keys that wouldn’t work, but hopefully would let them pick the profile when car starts
I guess if you have one set, but there are usually two that come with most cars. Probably whoever grabbed theit preferred car key first means the other grabs their key for the second car?
As someone who used to work on other people’s cars, I think I’ve had my knees jammed into the dash way too many times to ever want this on one of my cars. Fuck that.
You mean due to the risk of accidentally hitting a button that sets the seat to a short position while you drive?
Nope, I mean due to them being automatic when you start the car, and linked to the “driver comfort” profile stored in the key.
As soon as you start the car the seat starts cramming your knees into the dash if it happens to belong to a shorter person. And of course, there’s no sign in the car that the owner is short because the seat moves all the way back when you turn the car off.
/Rant (sorry, the real problem in my opinion is that there isn’t a resistance/safety sensor that stops the whole thing)
Uhh isn’t that why the keys, and some cars have a valet mode? Take the key out of the fob dude.
Yeah lemme just disassemble Karen’s custom leather key fob cover, lol.
I can relate to this so much lol. I’m very tall and I remember getting into the Mercedes of a little old lady. The seat started moving forward while the steering wheel extended towards me. Felt like I was about to be featured on the hydraulic press channel.
Mercedes was the exact brand I was thinking of when I wrote that comment. For me it brings to mind the trash compactor scene from Star wars
The absolute panic when you put the keys in the ignition and the seat starts moving forward. You try to move it back before your knee slam into the dash, but the controls arent exactly where you thought
I wish those worked for all the mirrors too. At least mine won’t do that anyway
My wife and I are about the same height so we don’t have to adjust our seats.
I’m quite a bit taller than my partner, but she has a big bum and I don’t and it nets out to us having the same seat position, just different seat back angle to accommodate our different arms
Same with my wife and I. Seat doesn’t move, only adjust rear mirror. The side mirrors are set up for her since it’s minimal adjustment for me, it’s not worth it unless I’m doing a long drive like 3+ hours
That’s not a thing in modern cars.
Power seats and mirrors with multiple memory is still a luxury car feature and not mainstream like power windows.
I wouldn’t call it a luxury car feature. In the US basically every car >30k has that. And most new cars cost >30k at this point. Basically every trim over base that’s like the first thing they add.
I had a Ford Focus rental car with power seats once.
When I bought a $50k US car in 2017, only the top trim had memory seats, and they penny pinched it off the top trim hybrid model so I couldn’t get them at any price.
The OP did not say what kind of cars they have. It is possible to have 2 cars with memory seats and mirrors. Now if only we could get memory rear view mirrors on the same cars as memory seats. Oh and seatbelt height adjustment memory.
Camera rear views allow this, common in a lot of trucks, they use the backup camera and feed it through a screen where the mirror is.
My car does this automatically depending on the key fob used, or the smart phone that’s closest to the driver seat depending on which you are carrying. Seat, and mirrors.
Anyone else have to make sure she didn’t sneak a dick in her mouth?
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It’s how we do it. Some factors in choosing the car:
- Distance (gas milage)
- Destination (smaller car for inner city driving/parking)
- Safety of route (sometimes I drive over the mountains and one our cars is better suited)
- Number and size of passengers (children vs adults)
- Cargo (dump run, grocery shopping, etc)
- If I have to take a conf call when driving
I don’t get it, what’s so special about this?
It’s just a reckless way to live and is frankly plunging our entire society into unabated chaos
The amount of cars: yes.
My parents have “the new minivan” and “the old minivan,” I guess that’s what happens when you adopt four kids and two dogs.
We’ve got 1 car. If I need to go somewhere and the wife has it, I get the bus. It’s a lot cheaper than owning 2 cars.
Right now I work a hybrid job and landed this job not long after totaling one of our vehicles in an unavoidable wildlife encounter. We ended up not buying a second car and I’ve been biking to stuff in town when I can (I live in a small town and various stuff frequently calls for running to other nearby towns for this or that) and it’s been really nice only having one car to worry about, but with the kids starting school and my wife looking at going back to work, the time to get a second car might come sooner than later
Do you ever run into issues with the bus taking a lot longer, and you not accounting for the extra time if your wife take the car? Where I live, 15-20 minute car rides are often 35-45 minute bus rides, and the bus comes half an hour.
Not really. I just leave at the time needed to get to work on time for whatever mode I’m using. It’s about 8 miles, and before COVID it was usually quicker to cycle than sit in traffic. Now there’s less traffic so cycling takes a bit longer than car, but not much. Bus is about the same as cycling.
I’m 57 and not hugely fit, but I can cycle 8 miles each way without any problem. Takes 30-35 minutes depending on wind direction.
We have one car and I often choose my ebike.
I’d love to live in a place with workable public transport, but where I live it would add an hour to my commute each way; effectively an extra 10 hours a week at work
That’s fantastic if your city offers busses! Or public transportation at all 😭
Bikes are comparatively free
I live a mile from the nearest safe road to bike on. People regularly nearly hit me in my car. I’d be dead if I biked anywhere
Yeah but that would raise my commute to two hours daily. And an hour of that would be biking home after midnight in a town where I’m very likely to get shot, stabbed, and mugged. Probably at the same time.
Not to mention my bike getting stolen and the fact that I’d likely get stopped by the police here every night due to dark skin
America, FUCK YEA!
Keep you healthy too. I need to start using mine again.
I drive my bike to the busstop like a spoiled, privileged brat
I used to bike to work, then I changed workplace. Now if I tried cycling to work, I’d end up very tired… as in under truck tires.
The only cost is everywhere you go you show up needing a shower.
you get used to it very quickly and stop sweating, unless you purposely go high intensity
I’ve been biking 5-8 miles per day for fun and there’s no choosing not to get sweaty if you dare to live somewhere with hills
true, hills also are a problem
Bike theft is such a problem where I live I’ve been very hesitant to get another one. If they can’t get the whole bike, they’ll wrench off tires/seats, etc. My town might be an outlier, but I wonder how other people deal with this kind of thing when their bike is their primary form of transport.
The good news, I guess, is that there’s a healthy market for bikes and bike parts. Hopefully that means more people are riding them! (Note: some percentage of this comment is a joke but even I don’t know how much)
Distances are far in places designed for cars. My city was made at the height of car based design so it takes an hour and a half to cycle from where I live to where I work, and that’s typical. We do have transit though, which is especially pointed at moving people from residential areas to work places and back
My closest bus stop is 1.5 miles away and the bus runs every hour (or so they claim)
The city added some sort of public “uber” that you can hail and ride for I think $2 but it only works within city limits and my wife has many friends in the neighboring cities so it was useless if she wanted to meet them, and also sometimes it’d take more than an hour for a pick up
We’ve got 2 cars. If I need to go somewhere I drive there. It’s much simpler and quicker than getting the bus.
We’ve been trying to make this work with e-bikes. We still HAVE two cars, but don’t really use one of them unless we have to.
I was gonna say “wait until this guy hears my wife and I SHARE a car… oh, the humanity!”
Do you share your car or her car tho?
Haha at the moment, her car lol. I work from home and she drives to the train station.
My car has a clutch. My wife can’t drive it. It’s exhausting when something goes wrong with her car.
Sold my Miata for this reason and I regret it every day.
I also regret your decision.
That’s a crime
I want Miata so bad. I drive a Honda fit.
I’ve yet to find anything in this world that is more zen or fun than driving a Miata on a winding country road with my dog in the passenger seat.
It really doesn’t take that much effort to learn
For someone with extremely high anxiety, yes it does. She’s like a chihuahua.
There are whole countries where virtually everybody has to learn manual, even anxious people.
They just don’t have the crutch of automatic gearboxes to fall back on.
I have extremely high anxiety and can attest that it took a lot of time and effort to master a stick shift. It’s definitely valid that your wife doesn’t want to go through that struggle.
I forced myself. My first car was a 1992 Pontiac with a manual transmission. I didn’t even know how to drive it off the lot haha. I just wanted the damn thing.
Throw her on a hill and she’ll see that it’s way easier than she expects to find the catch. I’m also pretty high strung, generally speaking, and when I couldn’t get a hang of changing gears, the moment would devolve into sheer panic and make everything worse as I snubbed the engine with each attempt. And this was during parking lot practice with someone’s old car that they were planning on junking anyways, so no need for that level of stress whatsoever.
But then I was taken to a little incline where I could clearly /feel it/ for the first time and after that, I just “got it”.
Depends on the person. I had an ex I spent about 4 hours in a parking lot trying to teach and she never got the take off down. I think some people are incapable of driving a standard.
I just can’t feel that point where the clutch engages/disengages so I keep stalling at take off or grinding the gears when shifting. Haven’t tried again in a decade.
You’re supposed to push the clutch fully to the floor when shifting. You should never grind gears unless you’re about to money shift or something.
That could be the problem. I was told to shift when I felt the clutch take the power off the engine, and then give it a little gas when I feel the gears remesh. It was also on a 30 year old Peterbilt 5/10 speed hi/lo truck with everything worn out, so probably not the best thing to learn on
Not that I’m condoning this, but, take the keys to the other car away, and give them a headstart and I bet they’d figure it out precisely one commute’s time away from their next shift at work.
I think part of the difficulty is people ‘learning’ to drive stick in a parking lot. That’s good for 30 minutes, but you won’t actually get a feel for it unless you properly drive around.
Honestly though, I think if someone is actually incapable of driving a manual transmission car, then they probably shouldn’t have a license in the first place, it shows such a lack of fine motor control that it brings in to question their ability to manage other aspects of driving.
My wife and I share the cars like this. Is it so weird? We usually select the best car for the job at hand.
What if it was a daily commute for both you and your wife? Would you play eeny miny moe with the cars every morning?
Good point. She commutes a few days per week, but I’m 100/% work from home. Can’t say I miss commuting.
Commutting 40min+ each way every day, I envy.
Same. And the best car at hand is the EV one, 100pct of the time. Whoever goes out takes that car. In the off chance the second person need to go out at the same time, they take the older crappy car.
Yea, why is this such a surprise. Especially with kids or groceries. Different trips require different transportation needs.
Insurance and ownership papers here generally require a primary owner here, at least on paper
Husband and wife in America can go on a vehicle as far as I know. Hell two unrelated people who both sign on the vehicle own it as far as I know.
My wife and I do this. We both have broncos. What you would call “mine” is a 2 door mostly used for off-roading and I leave the top off a lot. Hers is the 4 door luxury version with all the fancy things.
We take whichever depending on the situation. We will take mine if it’s nice and we want the top off or we have to park in a shitty parking lot, being 2 door it’s much easier to navigate. We take hers for long trips since she has the radar cruise control and lane assist and much better gas mileage.
sharing things with your spouse???
Lol, my wife and I happily drive whichever car, unless there’s a specific reason we need to take a specific car. Equally we definitely have cars we think of as “ours”
We have one (volvo xc90 with 3rd row seats) that is for going places with our kids, and another (a nicer/newer mercedes e350) that is the adults only car. I think the Volvo is technically in my name, the Benz in my wife’s but I’d have to check to see if I didn’t reverse those.
