As an elder millenial I’d like to proudly declare I have never gone to and escape room or axe throwing because those would require some sort of social interaction.
I drink a lot of IPAs though, you don’t need to speak to people to do that.
Dang, am I a Gen Z now?
My local Viking bar no longer has axe throwing, but they still serve Icelandic White Ale so it’s still OK, I guess.
Before ipas we had really light stuff, browner stuff and black stuff. It was a little boring
Meanwhile me, who is lonely to tears, yet drinks alone and consumes brainrot content at the same time while crying:
Hey, hope you’ll learn to deal with self destructing habits, every steps in the right direction matters !
And dont be too harsh on yourself, perfect is ennemy of good as we say in France, especially if its derail you from wanting to get better :)
Hey. Don’t do that.
Try out some MeetUp groups local to you. I found a local Web Developers hang, a local Snow time activities and a local board game groups that i’ve met some cool people from!
They should make a group for people who drink alone to socialize with, like “Alcoholics Identified” or something.
Hmm, maybe we could call it “Big Alcoholics Rally” or something. Maybe we could organize them as community centers, and give it a neat acronym. Hmm…
Nooo, don’t drink alone. It’s so bad. I’m sending you an internet hug ☆⌒(> _ <)
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This is all good advice, but even if you don’t follow it at least part of the issue isn’t that you’re alone, but what you’re doing while you’re alone…
Like. Years ago I decided to build a nine foot tall statue in the living room of my one bedroom apartment. It took me months, and it’s actually terrifying, but it also interests people. Like. No one responds to “I have an eight and a half foot tall statue in my living room” with “okay”.
Having hobbies isn’t just a way to meet people, it’s a way to learn new skills, grow as a person, and have something you can look back on and say “I did that”.
If you spent all your time alone building or making things you’d probably feel a lot better about the time you spent alone, and doubtlessly people would pick up on that
And before you say, “but hobbies are expensive,” I bet there are a lot of things you’re interested in that are cheaper than alcohol. You just need to find those things and start them.
Yeah. I was broke af when I made my statue. It’s mostly… I guess technically mortar. Cement and sand and burlap and chicken wire. Cement is not expensive.
And the best thing about hobbies is you can be creative. You can go dumpster diving to get “found materials” to make a statue, or go to the thrift store, or maybe the local wrecking yard. There are a ton of options for cheap stuff that can be attached together to make something interesting.
I’ve found some really, really weird art besides the dumpster behind my building, and the steady stream of old electronics has really helped in learning how to solder.
You don’t even need to open up a dumpster honestly.
I knew it, I’m just a zoomer born early.
As much as the whole generation thing is made up, sometimes being a zillenial (late millennial/early gen z) really makes one feel left out of everything
Being old millennial is weird too, most millennials think I grew up in the 50s compared to their life experience. The generation gap between me and my dad is what kind of manual car with a carburetor and hand crank windows we consider ‘‘new’’ looking. But I entered the job market at EXACTLY housing bubble burst. And I was worried I’d get drafted for Iraq, but, alas it thankfully didn’t happen.
As you get older you will eventually be considered both. For example people who grew up believing they were gen X might technically be labeled millennial nows. Like there are millennials who are in their 40s
I’ll be your friend. We’ll do stuff together. let’s go smoke a doobie outside of the gas station and play with our tekdeks.
I don’t want a fucken culture war between the generations like what happened with baby boomers. Gen X forward are all fine by me, live your life, be conscientious of other people and where they’re at in life, and for shits sakes lets be open to changing our societies based on different generational challenges. The generational wars were always stoked by cynical conservative bread and circuses propaganda, fuck em, stop paying them attention.
Make friends across generational and income lines. Yes, it gets awkward sometimes.
So you’re saying I should make a point of banging wom n in their mid 20s?
Not how I would have put it. I was thinking of platonic friendships
You’re right, I should have some purely physical, no strings attached flings with multiple women in their mid 20s.
No law against it, but not sure you’ve grokked the spirit of my original statement. It’s about building solidarity. I would add including across gender lines in your case.
If I were to prescribe a resolution for you this year it would be to become really good friends with 1 woman, and to fuck 1 man.
I’m serious. If you haven’t tried it already, then I think it might really shake some baggage loose for you.
I’m with you on the value of platonic female friendships. Miss me with banging s dude though. And you make a wonderful point about having intense, passionate, no strings attached sexually charged, animalistic flings with women in their mid 20s.
The shitheads writing the culture war articles and voting for Trump and his kind in greater numbers than the boomers are Gen X.
And this is why my millennial D&D group invites zoomers to join us, no better way to bridge that gap!
In my experience Millenials are super inviting to Zoomers, but not the other way around. But that could just be because they are literally slightly more mature than Gen Z.
I very met some very mature Gen Z! They just happen to be the ones that don’t spend a lot of time on social media haha
I dunno if it’s maturity or just…
Look I interact with a lotta kids, and they are not alright. If you told me a large number of zoomers literally did not know how to invite their friends to real life activities, I would believe you. I’ve spoken with a lot of Zoomers who are so socially awkward they don’t seem to understand a spoken conversation. I feel like we have an obligation to invite them to stuff, just to show them that there is a world off the net that’s worth living in.
That’s how it always is. It has nothing to do with the “generation,” but more the stage of life someone is at.
I didn’t get invited to things with people a generation or two older than me when I was younger, because I was an immature little jerk. Now I do, because my stage of life is a lot more similar to theirs now that my kids are more independent and I’ve learned to behave.
cynical conservative bread and circuses propaganda
It’s not “conservatives,” it’s mainstream media in general. Mainstream media lives and dies by viewership/readership, and the thing that sells clicks/views the most is drama. Age related drama is timeless and relatively easy pickings, because it doesn’t really matter what you say about a given generation, a number of people will identify with it, a number will disagree, and everyone seems to have an opinion.
It’s incredibly stupid and a big reason why I generally avoid mainstream media, except for coverage of important regional, national, and international news.
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Skip the alcohol and go to a modern laser tag arena with friends. Insanely fun. They somehow got the Halo 2/3 announcer over a massive intercom system, and they have similar games. Feels like a match from when we were kids!
Skip the alcohol
No.
We have inexpensive arcades as well, which are a ton of fun. $5 gets you about an hour of entertainment, and I wouldn’t go over 10 because you’ll probably get bored of the games before you use up your credits if you put too much on it.
Some other options:
- go karts - a little expensive for the fancy ones, so shop around
- shooting range
- trading card game nights at the game shop
These all cost money, but probably not much more than drinking, and they’re generally more enjoyable without alcohol. You can show up alone and have a great time, and there’s just enough social interaction that you won’t feel so alone.
But maybe this is my millenial side showing.
Depends on the arena. The one in my area, absolutely zero chance of them ever being that cool.
Also, I wouldn’t skip the alcohol. How else would I have had a couple full bottles of sake on my 21st if I had skipped it?
I’m so sick of IPAs, my god. Can you not make anything else?
Most of CTs breweries also have a nice a stout. My favorite is the romanov bourbon barrel stout at Woodbury brewing company.
The brewery near me has more non IPAs then IPA. They usually have at least one stout or porter, an American Ale, a couple Honey ales that are very popular and a Hefeweizen, at least one fruit flavored beer and maybe two or three IPAs on tap.
IPAs are just still very popular. My pet theory is that it’s partially the alcohol content as there are a lot of double IPAs that are high in alcohol content.
Oh it’s absolutely alcohol content, and a little bit of holdover from hipsterism. They also have a strong taste so it’s a good base to try out various different wacky flavor combinations.
I wish more places around here had American ales. Whenever I find a brewery that does it ends up being my favorite beer on the menu. I especially like the ones from thimble island and city steam.
I love IPA for the taste, and I wish there was more lower-alcohol ones.
Little anomaly IPA by Long Trail is one of my favorites, it’s 3.8% and 110 calories, if those are of any concern.
I guess buying hops is a lot easier than gitting gud at brewing.
Would you like me to add some fruit juice to your beer?
If that beer is an IPA, even fruit juice won’t fix the taste.
You are allowed not to buy them, so far.
Yes, it’s possible to stay home and curl up into a ball.
it’s also possible to stay home and not curl up into a ball. There are a lot of options!
IPA?
Beer that tastes like soap mixed with flowers
I’m a millennial who loves IPAs and this made me chuckle
International Phonetic Alphabet
I legit had this in my mind because I know nothing about beer and plenty about linguistics. “Millennials are bilabial trilling?”
Isopropyl alcohol
Yes. Always keep one in my closet.
My computer gets to chug some whenever I remove the heatsink
Made me laugh, first time today! Thank you 😊
Non-joke answer: Indian Pale Ale, a style of beer popular with a lot of homebrewers and beer enthusiasts.
thanks ^^
The cilantro of beer.
I absolutely have been drunk and thrown an axe . Who hasn’t?
I feel called out, somehow by both.
Me too, and I’m Gen X.
I hate them both. I wish the silent generation was still alive
They are, they’re Biden’s peers
Have fun dying your Easter potatoes
Do you think pointing out that Biden is literally part of the Silent Generation makes someone a conservative?
Yes. When there was no mention of politics at all in the conversation and then you go, “Biden also old af.”
I hate them both. I wish the silent generation was still alive
Not my fault you all had shitty grandparents
Definitely no politics there
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wtf are you talking about? Are you illiterate? Do you think by “both” I meant US political parties? How far down the rabbit hole are you fuckknuckle?
Gen X here. When I get bored I go out to eat by myself. Without the drinking though. I’m lonely, not gonna lie.
I have a partner I love, still enjoy being alone when I can.
I would too. I get overloaded on social interaction pretty quickly.
When I am bored I go to the explosion museum of naval firepower. Its next to a brewery.
Explosion Museum of Naval Firepower
Wtf its an actual place! The name sounds so ridiculous i’s not sure if you were havin a laugh or not. :)
It’s a real place and a couple years ago I had a years ticket to go in as often as I like and take the ferry around the harbour to see other things too like the historic dockyard (Victory, Warrior, Mary Rose) and the submarine museum. All included in that one ticket. It wasn’t even that expensive really. Lasted for a year.
Wow! The Mary Rose… you just sent me down memory lane. I hadn’t thought about that ship in decades. So i saw that ship when it was still going through that water treatment business. Blew my mind then, i’s really young at the time.
And now i realise i’ve been to Portsmouth, we were staying over in Eastbourne at the time.
The trip was full of museums and castle visits all over the south of England at least between Battle and Tintagel. So we could easily have been to the Explosion museum as well. I’ll have to dig out the old scrap books and see if somethings written in them about it.
The years ticket to all of those sounds like a great way to spend some weekends, get to enjoy the harbour as well.
Looks like its £51 normally for unlimited access to everything for a year. Not sure how often they do it, I got it much cheaper because they were doing it for a pretty good discount for anyone with a PO postcode. Not sure if it was literally every PO postcode or just some of them.
38yo recovering alcoholic, I feel you. Losing pretty much the only way people socialize sucks.
