lol yeah, the grey sticky stuff 😋

me being autistic at the same time not knowing that was looked down upon: you gonna finish your fries??

yoooo, my first adult bed, furniture set, and laptop were from the trash. rich kids in college towns throw out the best stuff. it was a Compaq, and the only problem was overheating because it needed that heat sink lube.

Is asking questions about basic things an ADHD thing? I thought it was an autism thing.

I would censor the work f–k because it might come off like you’re being passive aggressive and aren’t really trying. Reminds of the time the actor that played Burke on Grey’s Anatomy called the actor that played George a fa—t, then made a public apology saying he’s sorry he called him a fa—t and that he wont say fa—t again, except he said the word. People got even more pissed, and I think he was fired from the show. 🤦

I previously made a comment on how I’ve learned to apologize if you’re interested.

thx! updated the title 🌳🌳🌳

you got it, dude 👶👍

“the sticks” doesn’t mean poor

Is there an informal term that would describe poor rural neighborhoods similar to ghetto/barrio?

When you’re poor, everything smells like whatever’s on sale.

That’s right!! For me, it was like whatever I had that was nice. If someone got me a nice shirt, I would protect that shirt and only wear it to special events that I knew would not place the shirt in any danger (physical activity, stains from cooking or painting, etc.). I kind of still do that and have a few shirts that are ~20 years old, a backpack that is 23 years old, and a multi-tool that’s about 21 yrs old. Never though that was associated with growing up poor, but it makes sense now.

Yooooo, I needed to hear a few of those. Thank you very much!

Same, but I didn’t marry them. I became nearly completely useless. Lost almost all friends, hobbies, work, goals, dreams, and even desire. I couldn’t recognize myself in the mirror. Coming back has been incredibly difficult since I didn’t trust anyone to guide me nor myself. How do you get somewhere without direction? Lately, I think I’m on the right track, but I will never be my old self and that’s okay. My old self got me in that situation, so the new one will be better.

Below are three songs that I found validating during these times. Two are in English and one is in Spanish. If you don’t speak Spanish, I would happily translate the lyrics for you; just let me know.

Ren and Chinchilla

• How to Be Me

The Big Push

• Dignity

Residente

• René

Bupropion is the only antidepressant that works for my mood. The SSRIs and SNRIs make me feel numb and dumb, so I hate them. However, bupropion doesn’t have any noticeable impact on my adhd. I gotta take ritalin for that.

Thank you very much!

I’ve heard that people use snow tires. How does that work? Does everyone have 2 sets of wheels at home that they switch with the seasons?

thank you!

@kapx132@lemmy.autism.place @haui_lemmy@lemmy.giftedmc.com

Penguin Pebbles!

The ‘do you mind’ question a great example of why many neurodivergent people have such a hard time in social settings, keeping track of all of the contradictory social expectations that don’t make sense is tiring and not everyone is consistent.

Yes! Thank you very much. It’s at least a triple-effect because (1) we get confused about what the response means so we have to focus on solving the riddle, (2) solving the riddle consumes more mental energy so we have less in reserve, and (3) we miss out on everything that occured while we were figuring out the riddle so we have to catch up when we already run slower.

Thanks for the help! I can understand it retrospect, but in the moment, I will be unsure and request confirmation. It’s just how it is 🤷

What does that mean about your preference with the use of “do you mind”-like questions?

I dont think I’ve ever looked at them

Mannnnn, I would be the same way. That whole seeing people cut open is hard enough. I can’t imagine seeing someone I care about anesthetized, cut open, and then their insides. I rather continue my delusion that their insides look like a mix of their outsides and their personality.