For me, it’s my roommate and the never-ending rant about ‘stupid’ things going on at work.
This is why people moved en masse to suburbs. You go to your car and drive away, rarely even see a neighbor. I’ve spoken to a neighbor once in the last year and it was because we were both shoveling snow (it was yesterday). We shoveled for an hour in silence but we kept getting closer to the street (she’s across the street). At some point we were only about 20 feet from each other and the silence was awkward. At least it was just a 30 second convo.
Wtf? I live in the suburbs and we talk regularly to the neighbours. Is this some weird US-specific dystopia?
Community is hard to come by here. It’s bad.
Yes
I grew up in a suburb and that was the only time I HAVE regularly felt like this. I still wince when I think of the loud Greek lady across the street who shouted my name whenever I tried to leave the house. Egads.
I need this explained. Is this a bathroom?
I think it’s her front door and her neighbors are talking in the hall outside her apartment. (The keys doesn’t really make sense with her wanting to ‘go’)
In Europe you often have doors that lock with keys from inside as well. And no knob/autolock.
The good part is that there is no “I forgot my keys and locked myself out” because either you couldn’t leave without your keys or you left your door unlocked.
The bad part is when you are late to your engagement because you can’t just leave the apartment unlocked/you are locked in and your room mate Julia misplaced her keys and borrowed yours to go out for an hour and she’s an hour late already. Fuck you, Julia. Also fire safety.
Some houses have a deadbolt that has a lock cylinder on both sides because it’s more resistant to breakins. My house is like this and I need a key to leave unless I want to jump out of a window
Have they not invented fire in your country yet?
(The keys doesn’t really make sense with her wanting to ‘go’)
I was thinking it could be a gas station bathroom.
Yes. Their violent neighbor broke in earlier and is currently using their bathroom, much to the embarrassment of the protagonist
Never really got this myself. Maybe it’s not a rational thing since who gives a fuck?
Oh yeah it’s completely irrational. Used to be like this myself particularly when living in a dorm during college. Couldn’t tell you what I was scared of to be clear. No thoughts led me there, no experiance with people, no issue with talking to people even. I know if just walked out I’d be fine
When I was next to the door and heard someone in the hall I’d just feel nervous and fearful. I’d standby the door with my ear against it steadying my breath without making a sound until the were gone. Particularly aweful when the bathroom was down the hall you know.
Notaclue what changed either I just kinda stopped caring at a point
People who say Lemmy is not a social media site might just be right.
Because apparently the people here do not want to be social they just want the media.I think lemmy and reddit are super different from social media. you can use some of their tools to socialize but most if not all people don’t use their real names, most don’t even have a proper profile, most people don’t follow each other or try to get followers, etc. there’s just no “relationship” aspect that is distinct to social media sites.
if anything lemmy feels a little more social just because of the small size, and how you start to recognize the same bunch of people in the comments. but I’d expect that to go away if it ever gets really big one day.
discussion =/= socializing
Finally
Asocial media
Hm, I’m kind of in between. I do this fairly often, not wanting to go out right when someone else is there. But I don’t know why, since as far as I can tell it doesn’t make me feel anxious to run into someone like in the cartoon.
It doesn’t bother me at all to cross paths with someone and I’m fine with saying Hi or just nodding to acknowledge their presence. Rarely does anyone actually try to start a conversation or anything. If they do say anything it’s probably just a one-liner and move on. And it’s easy to tell if someone doesn’t want to nod or say Hi as you pass because they stare at the ground the whole time, and I’m fine with that too, but I don’t do that.
But now I’m wondering, so why do I tend to wait until they’re gone? Is it really social anxiety? I don’t think so? I’m a loner but I have no problem or anxiety talking to people either. 🤔
I’m usually rushing out somewhere when I leave the house and a few of my neighbors are talkers, which I normally don’t mind at all. But sometimes it makes more sense to just wait inside for a minute rather than get stuck in a 5 minute conversation.
Not me. I even talk to people in the bathroom.
That’s why I don’t leave the house. 😎
Can’t relate
Ahh i cant relate to this one
Who is speaking in the last panel?
A Portal turret.
are you still there?
Without checking other comics in the same storyline I would have to guess roommate(I don’t know this chatacters living situation), the keyholes in some appartments are on both sides, she is inside her apartment trying to leave, and has been trying for long enough that the roommate is surprised.
Flat mate or partner or family?
I do this for every threat of human interaction ever. I wish I could fix that.
You don’t fix it. You just work on it till you can handle more because you want to or you have to.
We aren’t so much as broken as just different, as we all are. We all just need to do our parts to work to be part of society rather than perfect it ourselves first.
I’m human, and you just interacted with me.
EDIT: This community has apparently about 11,000 active users. You just interacted with them and it didn’t seem to be an issue.
You’re not a threat and you don’t set my nervous system into meltdown. It’s the level of abstraction that I need to interact at all.
I’m human
I don’t believe this. I’m pretty sure this computer I’m using is generating random comments as I’m scrolling through here.
Every fucking time I want to leave some other neighbour comes out first and I have to wait for them to clear out before I can leave.
And they are so slow! Clear the public area swiftly you inconsiderate buffoons!
Wow you hate people more than I do. Just say that.
The old people always want to talk and I’m too nice to cut them off. There is no other choice but to avoid them at all costs.
So you guys hate eachother?
It’s just normal social anxiety.
To actively avoid interacting with anyone outside of your specific social circle??? Doesn’t seem like that would be “normal”.
I suppose it depends on your definition of normal. But I specifically didn’t say it was normal for everyone, I said it was normal social anxiety. Which only affects around 10% of people. Still a pretty large number, that’s about the same as being left-handed. And yet you likely know more people that are left handed, because the odds of meeting someone with social anxiety are, of course, much lower even though just as many exist.
That would be “normal social anxiety symptoms” or even “normal for social anxiety” where normal applies to the symptom discussed. Here your use of normal supplements the “social anxiety” which I do understand is more prevalent than people would really acknowledge but isn’t exactly normal.
Even more so for zero contact, no coping mechanism social anxiety that has you saying rude things about others existing in shared physical space.Is “normal social anxiety symptoms” really meaningfully different than "“normal social anxiety”? Isn’t that implied?
It is not implied. In fact I doubt most people would consider social anxiety to be even a clinical term and it is often used a catch all for minor anxiety towards social interactions that can be difficult.
Following up someone saying they hide inside when neighbors are around and that they think they are buffoons for not moving at the speed you want because of a lack of self control with “well that’s just normal social anxiety” validates and normalizes behavior that is neither valid nor productive.
My grandmother was an English teacher and she would tell you it’s not ok to leave things implicit as you leave the comprehension to the reader when that is the purpose of you as the speaker.
well, you suffer from social anxiety, than yes, it’s normal
Undiagnosed anxiety sufferers who think it’s normal to be terrified of human interaction downvoting you
My relationship with my neighbors is that we’re great friends to the point that we don’t even knock coming into each other’s apartments, especially considering we regularly take each other’s dogs for walks while the others away.
This sounds like my personal nightmare. I’d never be able to relax knowing someone could drop by any moment. You’re way more friendly than I.
The whole neighborhood, for the most part, consists of friends. It’s employee housing for a ski resort so they’re all at least coworkers, with the exception of the cop who doesn’t do anything but is used as a threat against everyone else by the landlord and me who’s an unemployed arguably crazy person who’s trying to get on disability for the seizures and is allowed to stay since I sleep on my dad’s couch and he gets along great with the resort.
comments did not pass the vibe check oh mein gyatt
Ong wtf. I was expecting more “oh haha that’s totally me” or some form of solidarity, but nope
no cap, it’s really skibidi
Regular Scandinavian life.
I need to move to Scandinavia.
Expensive, cold, and dark. Otherwise sounds fantastic.
