every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I’m not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)

its not new food, I’ve been to these places many times before

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    Anxiety?

    If that tiny idiot of an amygdala in your brain thinks you’re in danger then nausea can be a symptom.

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    This happened to me as well. I’d take a few bites of a meal and feel full/ nauseous; Sometimes even throw up. It went away after maybe 6 months of dating and we joke about it now 12 years later.

    We chalked it up to nerves, but no one can tell for sure. Best of luck OP! Guessing you really like this person.

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      I hope that’s it and it goes away on. its own

      yeah we’ve liked eachother for two years now, but I was too dense to realized she liked me back and she was too shy to say anything lol

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          I mean a little, but ive got the money. and she pays half the time and those times aren’t any better so I don’t think its that. I also generally don’t think about money all that much.

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        My husband would get wild upset stomachs before we went out on a date. His aunt would tease him that he was allergic to me. It was anxiety.

        I could spend the whole weekend with him in his apartment, and he’d feel fine. It only happened before we planned to go out to dinner specifically. Lunch was nbd to his brain.

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          interesting. now that I think about it the less fancy the place the more likely I’ll be okay I think? but imma start taking notes

          but yeah that’s probably what it is

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            Really think about what you are expecting of yourself at times like that. Sometimes nice restaurants make me feel pressured to have a good time or otherwise “fit in” with the other people eating there.

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            Money is a serious thing. If your relationship is going to make your financial life unsustainable, that needs resolving.

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    Maybe she’s poisoning you just a tiny bit at a time. Kidding, but have you guys eaten a meal at home together without you feeling sick?

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      not really, she came over once and we ate like polish crepes i made, and that was fine, but not much of a meal, no

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    Sounds like anxiety. Mild nausea and loss of appetite are something that I deal with on a daily basis. If you are happy then it could just be nervous excitement, like having butterflies in your stomach.

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      Yeah, OP didn’t say how long they’d been together but if it’s a new relationship after 3 years of being friends, especially if they’re young and/or there’s been lingering feelings for some time before becoming “official”, then anxiety and nervous excitement is likely to be high!

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          If nothing else is triggering it then my advice would be to cherish the feeling while it lasts! Go on dates that don’t involve food for a while or stick to lighter food that doesn’t involve sitting in a restaurant to eat. Once things start to feel more normal between you then you can try formal meals again.

          If she’s suggesting restaurants in the meantime then just be honest with her, she’ll likely find it sweet and endearing and it’ll help to calm the nerves.

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            maybe you’re right

            thing is well usually spend a good couple hours together and need food at that point

            but well see, might be best to try and avoid food for a bit

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              Cooking together can be a fun “date”. Do it at your place so you won’t feel so much anxiety. Or if you need food that badly after a couple hours make some popcorn and eat it while you watch a show or movie.

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    It’s possible they changed their recipe to include something you may be allergic to or it’s a new allergy

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    It’s because you’re pregnant.

    But on all seriousness, some say that there are cases when the would-be-father also feels nauseous with food when the girl gets pregnant.

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    Allergies maybe? Most women use special makeup for dates. It could be something she’s wearing like lipstick. It could be something in the food like peanuts or olive oil.

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    Go to the same restaurants at the same time under the same conditions (i.e. how recently you ate another meal, day of the week, the weather, etc.) but with a different person and see if you still feel ill. Vary the conditions until you find one that correlates with your illness. Then try altering that condition.

    If you feel ill under all conditions then see a doctor. In fact it might be good to make a doctor appointment anyway.