Throwaway account cause I’m embarrassed. Basically a few days ago I randomly woke up with a hemorrhoid after a couple of days of sudden itching in that area. I thought it’ll pass on its own but it hasn’t. I tried some home remedies I found online like sitz baths but nothing has worked. It’s very uncomfortable and I’m fairly sure I need to see a doctor / get some proper medicine. But I can’t bring myself to tell my parents cause it’s so embarrassing I cringe just thinking about it.
I was constipated for the first time at 15/16. Didn’t want to say anything. Not saying anything didn’t help and I suffered in pain for several hours.
My advice to you: ask for help before it gets worse and more painful. Your parents will laugh but you’ll get over it.
The common treatment is an over-the-counter cream/ointment so you don’t need to see a doctor. Just talk to the pharmacist.
I doubt there is an adult alive that has kids old enough to have issues like this that hasn’t also had issues like this. They really aren’t that uncommon. Google the percentage of women that get them during pregnancy. And men also can have terrible bathroom habits that lead to them often using the toilet to escape for some quiet time (guilty as charged).
Just remember though, these people wiped your ass for several years so I doubt very likely they will give it much thought.
If my kid came tome with this problem I’d be like “yeah those can be quite painful and uncomfortable, let’s go get this looked at”. Just remember first and foremost, your parents are just people and likely want the best for you. This really isn’t a reason to be embarassed.
Agree with everyone else. It’s embarrassing, but it’s not like you have to show them what’s going on. Just tell them you need to see a doctor for it.
If you’re really so uncomfortable telling them about this that you can’t bring yourself to do it, then you could try telling them “I need to see a doctor. It’s embarrassing, I don’t want to discuss it, I just need to make an appointment. I’ll handle the scheduling, I just need to know my insurance info* and a ride to the office”
*Or however that works where you are.
If you can reasonably do it, you may just be able to call and schedule it without their help.
Way worse things than embarrassment can potentially result from ignoring medical issues. Accept the temporary embarrassment; keep your health sorted.
There are so many things parents worry about - is their kid doing okay in school, are they getting along with others, are they into drugs, are they pregnant/got someone pregnant, are they being peer-pressured into shoplifting or drinking or whatever.
This? This is absolutely not something a parent is going to get upset about, except for being concerned to your health, getting it fixed, and preventing it happening again. Talk to your parents.
I had a high school teacher who used to say there are two types of people those who have hemorrhoids and those who will get them. Take your time on the toilet.
Do your parents need to know why you need to go to the doctor? Can’t you say it’s for some other, less embarrassing reason? Not that you need to feel embarrassed but I don’t think your parents will be harmed by the white lie. And it doesn’t really change the outcome for you, right?
Hemorrhoid are super common, like 50% of people will get them eventually. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
I guess you can continue waiting, but I bet eventually the pain will beat out the embarrassment. Why not shorten the ordeal?
Your parents wiped your ass. There’s no reason to be embarrassed about anything.
Just say it quick, like ripping off a bandaid:
“I need to see a doctor about a hemorrhoid that won’t go away.”
It’s not even in the top 1000 worst things kids have to tell parents. If you can’t tell them about a hemorrhoid, how are you ever gonna be able to tell them about the gay prostitute you accidentally knocked unconscious, thought you killed, and then tied up in the basement after they woke up while you were trying to bury them?
If a hemorrhoid is the most embarrassing story you’ve got, you have no reason to be embarrassed.
Exactly. I mean, the first couple of times you might be able to think of an excuse to explain it, but the 3rd or 4th time they catch you, you’re just going to have to come clean
Your parents used change your diaper and to them it feels like it was just yesterday. Once your parents reach a certain age, you might have to take care of them in similarly uncomfortable ways. There is no shame between you. And telling them you need medical treatment for what you think may be a hemorrhoid is not the worst, it’s not like you have to parade your butthole infront of them. There’s no way around feeling embarrassed, you have to suffer that, but you’ll make it through, I promise.
Don’t worry about being embarrassed. This is your health and it is important. You don’t want to let things like this go on too long.
What are your alternatives? Just keep quiet about it and live in discomfort and let it get worse? Or spend a few moments POSSIBLY feeling embarrassed and getting the help you need? I say “possibly” because I doubt your parents will let you feel that way about something that is medically bothering you like this. Good parents will care and do what they can to help you.
Go get yourself taken care of. This is important.
It’s a funny subject too. Maybe try bringing it up as a half joke and be like “OK but now fr what am I supposed to do??”
I kinda get your point, but you have to see it this way: Both of them had it themselves almost certainly at some point in their lives. Haemorrhoids are kinda common. But it’s not something you tell your peers about while having a break next to the coffee machine.
Also, don’t be embarrassed about medical issues in front of your parents. If they aren’t complete assholes, they won’t turn this into a show to shame you or something.
They wiped your ass for years. They’ll live.
Totally. And eventually people get to the age where “embarrassing” medical stuff is so common that it doesn’t even raise an eyebrow. Just be matter of fact about it, if you don’t act like it’s embarrassing then they won’t either.
