Daughter (15) recently told my wife and I that she has a huge crush on this boy (17) from school who’s hanging out with her friend group a lot these days. She said he can’t date because he’s a Jehovah’s Witness. All wife & I knew before is that they’re some Christian group. From what we read online they seem to be pretty radical & abstract stuff like 144000 (?), Armageddon. They even get called a cult.

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    The JW’s are a specific branch o protestant Christianity that arose in the USA.

    They are evangelical, note the small e, in that they believe it is their express duty to spread their take on Christ’s message. They are NOT Evangelical in the sense of non-denominational Christianity.

    They are non-trinitarian (there is just God not parts of God), they believe Armageddon is imminent.

    Witnesses still fall into most of the red flags for cultishness but they are a little too big to be viewed as a cult.

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      They also shun any sort of therapy, or psychiatric help. They just pray away the problems. This led to my best friend’s suicide because his mother would only have him speak with their priest or whatever to help with his depression and alcoholism.

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    essentially a cult that believes in alternative christian bible concepts.

    I dont trust them because they took a friend of mine i had away from me.

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    I have very little personal experience with them, but I used to work with a guy who was raised JW, and he had nothing good to say about them. He lived it and called it a cult, so I’ll take his word on it.

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      My childhood best friend was raised in a JW family and eventually became an atheist. He also refers to it as a cult. I’m really proud of him for getting out of it, because doing so was difficult (because of it being a cult!) and took a lot of strength

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      Same experience here. A former co-worker and good friend was raised JW, and was practicing for all the time I worked with him.

      We used to have long conversations about it, as I was raised COE, so was fascinated by some of the more extreme takes.

      Anyway, he now only refers to them as “the cult” and has absolutely nothing good to say about them.

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    Like mormons they shun the outside world and those who leave their group. Their street missionaries are meant to show their members how outside people are bad not convert people. Best to be nice to them to show them it’s a lie.

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    They’re someone who acted as a witness in the case of Jehovah v. Everyone, a class-action case filed when some dick allegedly caused a flood and destroyed the world.

    I have to say allegedly as terms of the settlement

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    Not a Christian group - they’re more like the Mormons. They believe their founder is the most recent prophet, that his rewriting of biblical texts based off his interpretation of the King James bible is the only true interpretation, and that only the elect are going to Heaven, and that they get there by saving other people’s souls (essentially, he who makes the most JWs wins). And yes, it is definitely “he” — the women are saved through childbearing. The group commonly goes by the name The Watchtower Society. They’re famous for distributing tracts door to door. If you turn away from being a JW, all others are required to cease having anything to do with you. If you hear their teachings and then tell them you choose to belong to a different faith, you’re considered a heretic and for the most part they will try to avoid you (no more house calls).

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      They are Christian in that they accept the Bible and they believe in the redemptive act of Christ’s sacrifice on the cross.

      They are different than Mormons in that they do not have a new text or a fundamentally different take on the nature of your relationship with God like the LDS do.

      They are very odd and cultish but they are Christians.

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        Like Mormons, many christian groups consider the theological differences strong enough to not call them christian. Of course Christian is a label that was applied by outsiders to talk about this new sect and so I guess really what counts could be how outsiders think of them.

        Take your pick. You can argue either way.

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      Jehova’s Witneses and Mormons are both Christian. Each would argue they are the TRUE Christians and all the others are misguided. They worship Christ. Jehova’s Witnesses actually started as a Bible study group.

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      They’re famous for distributing tracts door to door.

      Like the Mormons a large part of that is making members believe outsiders hate them for their religion…

      When really I just hate any random person who knocks on my door.

      It’s less to gain members, and more a way to prevent people from leaving.

      — the women are saved through childbearing.

      That’s how cults grow their numbers.

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    This response coming from a Christian, let me try to answer this in a bullet point list:

    • they’re strict;
    • they don’t celebrate birthdays, or don’t do anything they believe it’s associated with paganism;
    • they’re strict;
    • they knock on people’s doors with a strict dress code to make more people join in;
    • they’re also around the world, as missionaries;
    • have I mentioned they’re strict?

    thanks for coming to my TED Talk. Don’t take what I said as fact and do your own research.

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      Knowing Better is such a fantastic youtube channel. I can’t recall this video specifically but ALL of his videos are worth the hour long watch.

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    They are an Evangelical cult, and unless he is going to leave the group, get your daughter away from him. Otherwise he will try to convert her and manipulate her

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      Agreed, but just to expand on your point - he’s almost 18 and able to make his own choices soon. If he chooses to leave the church his entire immediate family disowns him, that’s for certain. That’s what they do. If he isn’t drinking the kool-aid, having someone there to help could make a huge difference in which direction his life goes.

      My sister dated an ex JW at around 18. He stayed on our couch for a few weeks after his family disowned him.

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      This is my concern. Not that he wants to manipulate her to harm her, but that he wants to “save her”. Her being subjected to that pressure could seriously damage her relationship with her family.

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        Cousin of my wife was in a serious relationship with a JW. I told her it was basically a cult, will isolate you from your fam, and make you dress and behave a certain way( wife said she already changed her dress style to what he wanted). Two years later we get invited to the wedding. No music or booze, we split after eating and congratulating the couple. I haven’t heard mention or news from them. Parents never talk about it so I assume the worst.

        Hope they keep the kid away!

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        It will end up harmful though. Their beliefs about the “place” of women are harmful. That, and their general social isolation, are reasons why I tell people to get away from that cult and deprogram anyone they can.

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      A lot of cults deliberately send it out their members to recruit new converts by feigning love. I don’t know if the JW do this but it’s a possibility I’d keep in mind.

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    If you ever want to feel uncomfortable and depressed, go watch a sermon at a Kingdom Hall (Jehovah’s Witness church). It’s all about Armageddon.

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      I used to keep copies of random books (The Quran, Thus Spake Zarathustra, Mein Kampf) close to the door for when the JWs came knocking. They’d soon scarper when I tried to talk about my books.

      To be fair pretty much anything secular scares them off.

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    For day-to-day purposes, they’re anti-fun. They don’t celebrate holidays, birthdays, etc.

    I’d say your daughter is dodging a bullet, but it’s more like he’s pushing her out of the way.

    Hopefully, when (if) he goes to college, he’ll put this crap behind him. Telling young people that they can’t date is ridiculous. Excessive self-denial is not an enjoyable life for yourself or the people around you.

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    I care very little about people’s peculiar beliefs, however you should know about Jehovas witnesses:

    • they are absolutely a cult and dangerous.

    • they believe joining their cult is the only way to achieve eternal life. Everyone else is doomed.

    • they put a very high focus on „saving“ people, aka bringing them into the cult. In fact, how many people you brought in is a big factor in determining your worth. Members are absolutely convinced they are doing good and actually saving souls. At least the normal folk who don’t abuse their brothers and sisters.

    • members are discouraged from forming bonds and meaningful interaction with non-members, unless it serves bringing them into the cult.

    • if someone leaves the cult, other members are forbidden from interacting with them, even within families. Except for the purposes of stalking and harassment of course.

    • obeying authority without question is very important. The children obey the parents. The wife obeys the husband. The husband obeys those above him in the pecking order. This creates a fertile breeding ground for domestic and sexual abuse, which are dealt with „internally“, aka swept under the rug.

    That said, most of them are normal people trapped in a very bad system. They can be kind, absolutely lovely people, or huge pricks, or pure evil, everything people outside the cult can be. It’s just that every single one of them needs to pull you inside, for your own good.

    A JW to non-JW relationship is not possible in the long term. Either your daughter will be absorbed by the cult (because he can’t let his wife and their children be condemned) and distance herself from you and her former friends or he will leave and be shunned by his family and friends inside the cult. Anything else will not be tolerated by his community.

    The best you can do is to find out about their methods and dangers and also prepare your daughter to never give up thinking for herself. I hope she is level headed enough to understand that it is not going to go well, even if he is a genuinely good person.

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      It’s the pyramid scheme of religion: you only get saved if you brought a bunch of people to the religion cult. Only 144000 people will be saved. At a certain point there are no more people to bring to the cult and the bottom ones/newest initiates won’t have anyway to make money get saved

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        The two are genuinely not comparable. Organized religions are often terrible, abusive superstitions, but there are degrees to the thing. Jehovah’s Witnesses are at the degree of public danger

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    I’m an atheist so, grain if salt because all religions are pretty dumb to me but… JWs are really quite crazy, even by modern evangelical standards. They believe there are a finite number of individuals that will be allowed into heaven. Believers are in a competition to get to the top of the list. They also believe in absolute mental control over the congregation and members are encouraged to never date outside of the church.

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      Online Atheist try to answer a question without first mentioning their atheist and casually insulting all religions first challenge: Impossible

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          Sure, I didn’t say anything about atheists. I’m saying that there’s no need to announce your own belief and insult other people’s belief to answer a question. I swear these atheists are like the online version of vegans who have to announce it to everyone and judge other ppls decision to talk about something else

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          In this specific context it is quite relevant that they’re an atheist, and therefore presumably relatively sceptical of religion in general. That’s a bias colouring their response that they’re disclaiming that they have.

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        Well maybe if organized religion wasn’t such a cancer on humanity that an unimaginable amount of needless spilled blood across history can be laid at its feet it would be seen in a better light.

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      Most of what you list isn’t crazy if you know the texts. For example The 144000 men chosen to fight the Beast’s armies in Armageddon are the basis of the chosen/elect/elite which appears in other denominational theologies.