Edit: alt-text: Reddit post in r/TrueOffMyChest
Title: my friend just transitioned but I found out she’s naming herself Mildred. I wanna be supportive but, fucking Mildred?
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I am and will always be an ally. Mildred though. 😬
Maybe it’s the meaning. Just looked it up: Mildred means “gentle strength.” I’m warming up to it.
I say this as a trans woman. I will support, defend and love you no matter what sis.
But…
Fucking Mildred!?
I throw no shade on Mildred… As long as she’s one of those girls who like dress in 1950’s fashions and is way too into electroswing.
Then it’s only fitting.
That’s my great grandma’s name. I think it’s pretty nice. Lol.
Oh sure, I bet your Great Grandma is a lovely person and I have nothing against her or her name.
But, it is very much a GREAT GRANDMA sort of name that is super out of date. I would be exactly as critical as a parent naming their child Mildred.
This generational. I’ve seen a number of names I thought of as grandma names come back into fashion. People who are young enough not to have experienced grandmas with those names pick them. Gertrude is a grandma name to me, BTW, not a great-grandma name. I actually had a grandma named Gertrude. Welcome to old. (Edit: my brain glitched from Mildred to Gertrude there. Looking forward to Alzheimers.)
My partner’s favorite name is Edith
As a trans woman, fuck yeah Mildred. Take that awful name and make it your own. Sure you could’ve been a Megan or a Maria or even a McKenzie, but anyone could pull those off. You chose Mildred to flex on us plebs
In contrary to my own comment, I entirely agree with this take.
So many of us have a ridiculous name. I kept mine to my middle name, but so many don’t, so I can just fully embrace someone deciding she’s talking great grandma’s name and damn the consequences
I actually sort of am the opposite! Growing up my deadname had an unusual spelling. It was literally immposible for someone to spell it correctly on their first attempt. So every form filled out on my behalf had to be corrected, everytime my name was called there would be a double checking moment who I am. It was just a huge giant pain in the ass and even as a kid I knew I would change it, even for non trans reasons. So my chosen name is much more basic, it’s actually one of the most popular names for my birth year.
I can’t tell ya what a sigh of relief I give off when a cashier asks my name and just spells it correctly without giving it thought. that I can say who I am and people just… know that it’s the person on the forum. So y’all are 10,000,000% valid and I love your damn the consequences vibes! But for me? I’m so happy with my basic simple unremarkable name.
I had some friends that saved me from…Edith ugh.
Then i did a juke and went with Eleanore lol
Lol, Edith and Mildred are literally my grandmothers’ names. Edith is a badass and just turned 99.
Haaaa! I actually think Eleanore is a very pretty name, it has an elegant quality to me? Good pick! ♥
mildblue
Enough talk about trans rights, it’s time to talk about trans wrongs /s
But first, let’s discuss the right and wrong trans wrongs.
The right trans wrongs: coming from a place of deep respect for you as a friend, Mildred is not the right name for you
The wrong trans wrongs: how many American conservatives ready trans individuals
Can we talk about trans lefts instead?
I personally think we should discuss trans stayeds.
I 100% support people to transition. I don’t think people should get to pick their own names without any veto.
What if they changed their name to Adolf Hitler?
Only if they were hot. At least a nein.
Thats why they said they want to be able to veto…
Alright, everything’s coming up Mildred!
R*ddit / lemmy don’t do transphobia for five seconds challenge impossible
my only criticism is that it isn’t old-fashioned enough. if we’re reaching back to old names, why not go all the way and pick a name like Ælfgifu
Yes, please! What I’d give to see generation of Çeowulfs, Ælfgifus, Freyjas, Thorrs and Ragnars.
I’ve noticed a trend with trans women picking the stupidest names, and idk why. Like I kinda get Mildred because it’s a classic name and has a cute nickname. So it stands to reason maybe she has a family member that was a huge influence on her so she wants to honor her with that name but why the fuck do people pick names like Lola.
So her lips can taste like cherry cola.
Is that a reference to something I am too old to understand?
Lola by The Kinks in 1970,
The song details a romantic encounter in a SOHO bar between a young man and the eponymous Lola, who is possibly a trans woman or cross-dresser.
one of the lyrics references her cola tasting lips
small office home office bar 😍😍
Girls will be boys and boys will be girls, It’s a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world, Except for Lola
My great grandmothers were: Lola, Layla, Eula, Lulua. For real. They were born around 1900.
We have a cat named Lulu.
And I bet Eula never even read any EULAs
Mildred is the worst… witch
I gotta agree with the post. Millie would be a cute alternative Mildred. The name reminds me of mildew.
If you want to get to Millie, start with Camilla. Not fucking Mildred.
Or Amelia, Melissa or simply just Millie, who’s gonna stop you?
Should have gone with Genevieve, way more modern.
That’s hard to spell
OK, Jazzmyn.
Valid name.
Nobody’s saying that it’s a made-up name. Just that it’s really stupid. It’s the name of a housewife during the Great depression
Since I am not from the western hemisphere, I find it difficult to understand what is wrong with the name. Is it just that it sounds bad? Or any other reason?
It has several negative sound associations to me: mildew, dread, mild. It sounds stale and bland.
This excerpt from the linked Wikipedia article for the name abstractly summarizes it nicely.
It reached the rank of the sixth most popular name for girls in the United States in 1912 and maintained that popularity through 1920, but then its popularity dropped quickly afterward.[2]
The name Mildred was very common about a hundred years ago, but never really at any other point since. If you see the name Mildred without seeing the person in question your first thoughts will be that they are extremely old. That’s really about it.
