Edit: alt-text: Reddit post in r/TrueOffMyChest

Title: my friend just transitioned but I found out she’s naming herself Mildred. I wanna be supportive but, fucking Mildred?

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  • vonxylofon@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Damn right. If I transitioned, I wouldn’t take a lame name like Mildred. I’d go for something cool like Radicalorange or Forcefulblue.

  • robocall@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I knew an old lady that has since died, her first name was Mildred. She went by her middle name because even when she was a kid, Mildred was perceived as an unattractive name.

  • pastabatman@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    When I was in school the kids with the weird names were either picked on or they were super cool and popular. Their parents had no idea which one they were going to be when they chose the name.

    Your friend has the benefit of knowing who she is already. If she knows she’s going rock it, then go Mildred.

    • Etterra@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      You’re usually fine if you’ve got a biblically significant name. Many of those have staying power. Adam, Joshua, David, Samuel, Michael, Rebecca, John, Mary, Paul, etc. not all of them work though, and it varies by culture. “Jesus” is really coming in Spanish but almost unheard of in English (American POV).

      • Alatain@lemmy.world
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        4 months ago

        That is a bit of a selection bias. What you are effectively saying is “the biblical names that have survived to today have staying power”.

        But even that isn’t true here as almost all of the names you cite are significantly different now than their original forms. Looking at your list we have Yeshua, Shemuel, Mikael, Rivka, Yohanan, Miriam, and Paulus. Adam is mostly the same, as is David (with a bit of an accent difference), but the rest didn’t exactly emerge as they were.

    • Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      I throw no shade on Mildred… As long as she’s one of those girls who like dress in 1950’s fashions and is way too into electroswing.

      Then it’s only fitting.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      As a trans woman, fuck yeah Mildred. Take that awful name and make it your own. Sure you could’ve been a Megan or a Maria or even a McKenzie, but anyone could pull those off. You chose Mildred to flex on us plebs

        • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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          4 months ago

          So many of us have a ridiculous name. I kept mine to my middle name, but so many don’t, so I can just fully embrace someone deciding she’s talking great grandma’s name and damn the consequences

          • inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
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            4 months ago

            I actually sort of am the opposite! Growing up my deadname had an unusual spelling. It was literally immposible for someone to spell it correctly on their first attempt. So every form filled out on my behalf had to be corrected, everytime my name was called there would be a double checking moment who I am. It was just a huge giant pain in the ass and even as a kid I knew I would change it, even for non trans reasons. So my chosen name is much more basic, it’s actually one of the most popular names for my birth year.

            I can’t tell ya what a sigh of relief I give off when a cashier asks my name and just spells it correctly without giving it thought. that I can say who I am and people just… know that it’s the person on the forum. So y’all are 10,000,000% valid and I love your damn the consequences vibes! But for me? I’m so happy with my basic simple unremarkable name.

      • inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
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        4 months ago

        Oh sure, I bet your Great Grandma is a lovely person and I have nothing against her or her name.

        But, it is very much a GREAT GRANDMA sort of name that is super out of date. I would be exactly as critical as a parent naming their child Mildred.

        • blackbrook@mander.xyz
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          4 months ago

          This generational. I’ve seen a number of names I thought of as grandma names come back into fashion. People who are young enough not to have experienced grandmas with those names pick them. Gertrude is a grandma name to me, BTW, not a great-grandma name. I actually had a grandma named Gertrude. Welcome to old. (Edit: my brain glitched from Mildred to Gertrude there. Looking forward to Alzheimers.)

    • Frozengyro@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      But first, let’s discuss the right and wrong trans wrongs.

      The right trans wrongs: coming from a place of deep respect for you as a friend, Mildred is not the right name for you

      The wrong trans wrongs: how many American conservatives ready trans individuals

  • dreugeworst@lemmy.ml
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    4 months ago

    my only criticism is that it isn’t old-fashioned enough. if we’re reaching back to old names, why not go all the way and pick a name like Ælfgifu

  • VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I’ve noticed a trend with trans women picking the stupidest names, and idk why. Like I kinda get Mildred because it’s a classic name and has a cute nickname. So it stands to reason maybe she has a family member that was a huge influence on her so she wants to honor her with that name but why the fuck do people pick names like Lola.