the current job shows me my own limitations, which are more with my colleagues than with the job itself.

but ain’t this not one of your limitations, but theirs? This sentence makes it look like your coworkers slow you down.

could you write what your limitations with your coworkers look like? This is to me a very abstract concept.

and which one are those?

I got one “nurse” who was proactive and was an asset to my team, but they got pushed out since they didn’t play the game the way other “nurses” did.

and this exactly is why I left my old unit. A doctor like you is the one who wrote me the recommendation letter.

Are you being considerate of the doctors’ time and attention?

well, he came into the unit, I introduced myself and I asked him what I described.

A person in a hurry keeps his answers short and doesn’t proactively explain in detail what’s important when working with a PCA device at that unit, how to check the catheter wound and how to check that the patient’s legs are not completely numb. To me, he saw somebody new wanting to learn and engaged. He even showed me how to refill the PCA.

unsure. The doctor that did most of the talking didn’t complain and had an ability to work and explain at the same time, something I couldn’t do.

with other doctors I introduced myself and got to talk about studying medicine and clinical chemistry, but not for long.

At my old unit I had problems with nurses, not with doctors. Doctors are not the reason I left that unit, but nurses.

Since you just said “ok” without explanation or complaint, and then hung up, thats very matter of fact, straight to the point, and lacks the more emotional response most neurotypical people would have.

because I don’t want drama and when I work I get, as you put it, straight to the point. Why wasting words and time? What do I achieve if I yell and insult back? I become a moron yelling to another moron.

I’ve seen people walked out for less andI work in a factory.

now I’m curious. Would you tell us about it?

The way you responded was more indicative of being autistic to an extent.

would you please elaborate? What gives me away?

me: Hi, I’m A and tomorrow I’ll be working with you. Can you tell me how many patients do you have today at the unit?

her: what for? (she sounded exasperated).

me: I want to know how much I have to work.

her: are you stupid? (aggressively)

me: I beg your pardon?

her: are you stupid? [insert rant here she started I didn’t listen to because when people yell at me I disconnect and if she already made up her mind not to answer me, why bother? Plus, how many of you can have a conversation with somebody yelling at you?]

me: fine [I hung up]

if OP isn’t masking then neurotypicals will likely see OP as rude, cold, or robotic.

assuming that your post is in good faith, do you understand how tiring and ludicrous it is to pretend something you are not?

Should we advice gays to pretend not being gay?

It’s not my fault some of my coworkers stopped growing up immediately after leaving high school. I just want to work and go home.

thank you for this great advice

but don’t you hate your life or makes it very miserable and tiring?

I mean, expecting everyone to fuck me over would make me angrier I believe, like going to work and constantly ruminate about how every coworker and client is going to ruin my day.

If you are a cynic, how do you don’t ruminate?

or is cynicism more ‘no expectations no disappointments’?

You need a different manager. Distancing yourself from the one you have doesn’t sound realistic: Their job is to not be distant.

I’m lost here: what is their job?

Most of my co-workers don’t like me. My boss doesn’t even like me.

if your boss makes clear he doesn’t like you, why are you still working there and why don’t you have plans to quit?

I mean I don’t understand why this is not a reason good enough to start looking for employment elsewhere. Don’t you find it tiring? don’t your coworkers and boss wear you down?

If my boss makes clear he doesn’t like me it’s only a matter of time before he starts treating me differently, giving me the worse assignments, refusing to acknowledge me…

This would affect me to the point of starting to hate that person.

There’s something seriously off about this story, and I can’t help but think you’ve left out some significant details.

not really, but feel free to think what you want.

I’m guessing you cursed out a coworker and not for the first time.

Not what happened.

there’s a difference between cursing the poor work done by a coworker and cursing a person that was there and wasn’t responsible for the dressing.

I don’t understand why you choose not to see the difference.

why are you so easy to trigger?

I enjoyed reading your post, but Im the laziest sob to ever walk on earth and while I can promise to pay attention, I don’t believe I’m gonna follow through.

do you have any advice for me, now that I’m applying and might work elsewhere? Is there anything I could ask during interviewing to indicate I loathe drama, people full of themselves talking politics or conspiracies or openly discussing how vaginas look like?

yes, a very beautiful post.

Lost_My_Mind: how do you do it? Because apparently I’m very thin skinned and overly political statements my coworkers blurt out trigger me or their boring marriage troubles bore me and I find myself trying to control me not to yell ‘I don’t give a f*ck about you, leave me alone’, which of course earns me an invitation with management…