No one, including you, wants to date someone that doesn’t make them feel good and add to their lives in a positive and joyful way - in what world does ‘you’re hotter than me therefore I want you as a possession I can have sex with’ make someone feel any of those things?

What I meant was I don’t make it obvious not because I want to make them feel unloved or something but to prevent making them feel uncomfortable. I talk and treat everyone like we’re just friends (because for the most part we just are). If the woman from her end shows she’s interested in me than I try and go along with it.

But I am here to learn, so could you then please tell me how do you properly flirt with someone then?

I have, I go to gym about three times a week.

just feels he should own one and probably wants regular sex (on his terms only)

I never, ever said nor implied this. English is not my first language, so maybe I didn’t phrase it all that well. I rarely ever even flirt with women because I’m afraid it will make them uncomfortable. I, as any other person, seek companionship. I know it sounds shallow to put emphasis on looks. But no matter which way I shake it it is an important factor to me. Otherwise it just feels like another friendship to me. I can’t change myself in that regard. And the results speak for themselves. So here I am seeking help to at least not feel bitter about it.

I don’t know what to tell you. I only blame myself for being this way. And every woman I meet has every right to refuse me. I do not deny that. I think my bitterness about my life is unfounded. Because it’s all by virtue of my own choices. I do not want to feel this way. Not to gain favours from women but for myself. For that I ask help. That’s it. Sorry you feel this way.

I think they mean to ask for honest feedback, it’s quite possible your lack of success is linked to the mindset you have.

Oh I see. That’s actually not a bad idea. I’ll try and ask them.

How about Stancels? We are celibate due to our standards?

Have you considered that it’s the way you interact with whoever you’re interested in?

Are you nervous, self-conscious, whatever?

I honestly have never thought of it in great detail. But where would I be able to get feedback on this?

I do not deny it’s shallow. I am absolutely not savoury when it comes to that (though I do need her to also have similar interests). Be that as it may, I just don’t develop any romantic feelings for them otherwise.

Sometimes I feel like Oskar Shindler in this scene. 0:00 - 0:50

https://youtu.be/cClSiXBNGa8?si=qxyWva8kRn__oTVv

?si=qxyWva8kRn__oTVv

See this part of the link here? That’s actually a tracker by Youtube. You can omid that to make the link more privacy friendly like so:

https://youtu.be/cClSiXBNGa8

Thanks for the recommendation by the way!

Do you think you are sort of batting out of your league looks-wise?

Yes, definitely.

is there anything else that makes you think you are not physically attractive?

My arms and legs are particularly skinny, like Ballerina level skinny.

May I ask how old you are?

I am 24 years old

You are outgoing and social, perhaps try practicing flirting?

I find flirting difficult. Because I never want to make it obvious and I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not.

Now this may sound dumb. Hence I went with ‘No Stupid Questions’. But I don’t see the difference between:

being friends with someone

and

dating someone you’re not attracted to (except for intimacy and sex).

So yes I absolutely have. But I just never developed romantic feelings for them.

I never asked them to “rate” my looks. If that’s what you mean.

I already do, actually. But I was wondering whether or not if I should drop it after this reply. But I think I’ll continue anyway.

I just don’t feel motivated to date people I do not find physically attractive. Even if they do have a very nice or interesting personality, I would rather then just be friends with them. So yes, I think I would in fact rather stay single.

be happy to be alone

That was a very moving story. I going to try this. Hell or high water I will try. Not for the possible prospects but for me. Thank you for sharing!

Also:

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I like these.

Did you even read my post? I am bitter about the fact I can’t find a partner, yes. That’s nobody’s fault. I perfectly understand and accept as to why. But yes I can still be bend out of shape about my loneliness.

Be it my weight, face, or my personality, it actually hardly matters. Bottom line: There is an (innerly or outerly) ugly person who only wants to date attractive people, and by that they cannot get a partner. If that’s too much of a stretch for you, then there is no point explaining.