Mean leftist who believes in magic genders
My breakups usually involve some level of internalised transphobia directed at me for being nonbinary. I’ve only ever dated fellow trans people, but, well, the patriarchal brainwashing goes deep. Usually my partners only notice their hangups after a month or so with me. The feelings are buried, and being with me unburies them. Sometimes the problems are solvable, often they are not.
Western atheism and antitheism often exist as reactions to Christianity on a factual or ethical basis, while remaining within a Christian cultural and moral context. Historically, Christians and atheists have worked together to attack other religions, such as in the case of the stolen generations in Australia or the cult panic in America. This pattern of behaviour is counterintuitive if you’re culturally Christian (as most atheists are), but from a broader cultural perspective it’s kind of obvious. Christianity and white atheism exist as offshoots of the same history in the same way that Catholicism and Protestantism do.
If you have an actual understanding of pre-roman polytheism, then you’re capable of seeing the difference between belief and worship. A difference Christians have tried to erase, and white atheists have not challenged. Giving up cultural Christianity is beyond most white atheists’ ability to even imagine. What I call cultural Christianity, they would just as soon call “common sense” or “reality”.
Also I’ve never met an antitheist who has spent longer than an hour thinking about whether they’re advocating cultural genocide of indigenous people.
The word “narc” is a slur, that almost always marks out the user as a self-identifying “victim of narcissistic abuse”. It implies a number of incorrect generalizations that have already unfolded quite neatly in this thread. It has definitely become a negative term.
Personally, I would ban all victim lingo. People on “narc abuse” subs use this language to create/enhance their group identity, which is based on a number of incorrect assumptions; “I got really hurt, so my partner is deffo a narcissist”, “all people with NPD, or any degree of narcissism are monsters”, “self-aware narcissists don’t exist”, “all of them are abusers”, just to mention a few.
We are not allowed to post on those subs. I have never met any of those people, certainly never abused any of them, yet if I post in their space, I will get banned instantly, based on the fact that I have a certain personality disorder. There is a very good reason for that; god forbid that a Narcissistic person genuinely interested in dialogue would burst their bubble, disrupt the story they tell each other.
Yet they are free to post on subs that were created to support Narcissists; free to throw about their negative assumptions, demand explanations for their woes, or downright insult us.
I do not enjoy being a punchbag for “victims”, so I would see these discrepancies addressed, and limiting the use of the word “narc” to an appropriate context would be a welcome step in that direction.
Second link in the list.
Some people saying not to use mental disorders as insults:
https://www.reddit.com/r/narcissism/comments/hiyfu4/is_narc_a_negative_term_do_we_think_its/fwk18hj/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Negareddit/comments/5lyldh/using_narcissist_as_an_insult_is_ableist/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NPD_Memes/comments/15tirjm/dont_let_anyone_gaslight_you_into_thinking_they/
And some fascists complaining they were called out:
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/a8zfg3/is_narc_a_slur/
Have you asked:
I’m not being an asshole. I’m saying slurs are bad. I don’t need an excuse to say slurs are bad.
You called me a slur for my mental disorder to my face a couple hours ago. https://lemm.ee/post/20523475
And in another recent post you admitted that you’re fully aware I have NPD, so it was 100% intentional.
OP is a transphobe and a lesbophobe who calls disabled people slurs when he doesn’t like them
Oh, I didn’t do that. I made a new account and posted the same comment, and THEN I deleted my old comment. I didn’t want to spam the thread with duplicates.
I was banned from Beehaw for being “pompous”. I have narcissistic personality disorder, being pompous is one of the symptoms. I was being nice, polite, and complying with everyone’s requests, but I did so pompously, because I’m disabled. You’re 100% right, Beehaw is run be ableist radlibs and their word “nice” is a dogwhistle for “neurotypical”.
Humans don’t eat chickens’ kids. They eat chickens’ period discharge