Doctors gave my parents a choice to let my neonatal sibling die naturally. I grew up with them, loved them, and never wanted anything but the best life for them and my family.
If a doctor gives you a choice you should take it. It isn’t a happy life for them, the people they should care about, or broader society.
It’s fine, ask away. It’s important people think through long term implications so I’m happy to answer.
Such babies stand very low chances of living healthy normal lives. In my sibling’s case they didn’t live a happy or comfortable life, they precldued my other siblings and I from valuable childhood experiences, strained my parents’ marriage, and were a huge burden on taxpayers and society. There were some good moments but truthfully they never brought anyone any real happiness and no one ever honestly wanted them to be around.
It’s natural to want to cling on to those you love hoping the best for them, especially for mothers. My strong opinion is all things considered the kindest thing for everyone’s long term wellbeing is to be strong and let them go.