The developer doesn’t owe us anything, but if they’re creating an online community like Discord there are inherent responsibilities that come with that. If they don’t want to moderate, then they shouldn’t create a Discord/Matrix/Whatever server.
Just like how even if the developer doesn’t owe us anything, that doesn’t mean it’s fine for them to push malware as an update to their previously fine code after they’ve established trust.
I don’t think anyone’s against the idea of it getting delayed, rather they’re making fun of the fact that Boeing has a pretty bad history with safety (and the whole “multiple whistleblowers dying” part) and every time they are about to launch some other critical problem shows up.
Personally I’d love to see Boeing have a safe, successful launch but as things are right now it looks increasingly like NASA’s contract with them won’t show expected results. I’m not going to pretend to be a safety expert so I obviously trust the people doing launch inspections over my own judgement, but I’m not exaggerating when I trust Boeing’s rocket to be safe about as much as I would trust the next OceanGate submarine.