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You have all my sympathy. I don’t know cancer stages but, as someone who was diagnosed to not have much more than a fe months at most a year to live many, many years ago, I know it can be worth double or even triple-checking. Seeing another specialist was a revelation for me as the new doctor she, well, she did not contradict the first doctor diagnosis but instead she suggested me a new experimental treatment the other doctor (a very nice but also a much older lady) was apparently not even aware existed.

How to talk about it with your family depends entirely of your relationship with each of your family member. There is no such thing as one right way to tell them all.

I would only tell people I trust, that’s for sure. And there aren’t that many. Then, I would decide to which of those people I love I can tell, and how much I can tell, and how. Some, no matter how close we can be, I would not tell them anything.

I mean, when I was persuaded my time was coming, we talked openly about it with my spouse. We discussed absolutely every single aspect of what was to happen like the two (back then young) adults we were supposed to be, two persons caring one for the other. We talked openly because that is how we had always done it when faced with any serious issue, like we still do today. But I would not have talked like that with anyone else. Certainly not with my parents.

No matter how much we love them, many people simply aren’t wired for 100% honest talk, and can’t stand those kind of hard truth without being overwhelmed by denial and emotions (some of which can become very problematic when heartbreaking decisions and choices must be made), the kind emotions you may yourself not want to deal with at that time (I certainly did not want to).

Sorry for being unclear about the way I used “vet” in the title. I can see how that was misleading a little bit.

Don’t be. It happens all the time and that’s fine. That said, thx a lot for taking the time. Also note that I’m still not sure it was what you meant. Was it? ;)

so if you really like Kagi, I’m happy to hear about it.

Please, do consider my entire comment not just a part of it. What I said is that I do indeed like it a lot and also that I find it expensive and I’m not sure I will renew when time comes. Time which happens to be today and, yep, I’m as unsure today.

It’s hard enough to find info right now that we may soon is the opportunity to be picky about our information.

People habit of naysaying or belittling opinions they don’t agree with makes it even harder to find any trustful info but that’s how things work nowadays, that and a seemingly constant drive to try to hurt others through our words.

Regarding Kagi, they have a free test plan, it’s limited but it will give you an idea if it’s worth anything to you when you want to search for some info you can trust… and it won’t matter what I can say, or what any other of the persons speaking in this discussion I apparently started by daring say I liked to use a paid-for service to do my searches. Decide by yourself, that’s all you need to get a trustworthy opinion :)

Well, Debian has a 32-bit ISO, and since Ubuntu is based on Debian you may consider giving it a try?

https://www.debian.org/distrib/

True your two remarks.

And we also have a few very questionable representatives/candidate to whatever elections around here, but so far none that has managed to get away from a failed coup at the previous election — sorry, it was unintentional but I may have hinted at the candidate I was surprised was still able to run tor presidency ;)

Maybe I was a little bit sarcastic?

Non US citizens, what’s the weirdest thing about USA elections, compared to elections in your country?

I will probably get downvoted to oblivion for that but here it is: that one of your candidate was not put in jail already and is still legally able to run for presidency (note that I did not name said candidate, I would not want to influence US voters ;)

My spouse and I don’t do much gifts and we also ask people around us to not give us anything either, be it for Xmas, birthdays or whatever.

We have been doing that for many years, as a way to 1) reduce the amount of waste we generate and 2) as a way to, well, spend more time with the people we care about, instead of just spending some money on buying them always new stuff — something both my parents were doing with me back when I was a kid, more busy with their own lives than with raising me. I had plenty toys and even money as a kid but not much in terms of a family to spend time with. They regretted it a lot later in life, but t was too late. So, I was very young when I decided I’d rather not do the same mistake they did.

When I do make a gift (it happens :p), I try to favour something that is durable and useful to the person. Edit: if they do not let me know what they want, I will go for:

Books. Comics, fiction, essays, poetry,… they’re all great choice.

If they have any interest in making visual arts, I will probably go for a small box of watercolour paints plus some decent watercolor paper (paper is the real important thing in watercolor, way more than anything else), and a brush. I would also chose that for a kid btw (but would pick something more suited to them (some ‘real’ paint can be very toxic) as I have yet to meet a single child that doesn’t like to paint and sketch. Even teens do like that, the moment they stop putting on their usual rebellious act, they too will get a blast of sketching and painting.

Another thing I would consider, even more so if it’s for a teen/YA, is a nice journal/diary and a fountain pen with some ink whose color I know they might appreciate — the fountain pen in itself is such a unique writing experience that it may help the person make it into a habit to keep their journal.

As a side note: fountain pens are often associated with expensive luxury brands but there is no need at all to spend money on fancy & expensive stuff to get a very good fountain pen that will last for years. Among my all-time favorites are the Lamy Safari, I have been using some of them for many decades already and they still work perfectly today, and they cost something like 25€. Others are even cheaper (like the Platinum Preppy, around 6€) but maybe they don’t look as nice as a Lamy Safari, which may matter for a gift ;)

Edit: typos.

Yeah it varies. In my country you only need to participate in the conversation to be allowed to record it.

If your country is part of the EU (aka having to comply with GDPR)? If so, you may be surprised to realise that things have really changed in the last few years. GDPR being only part of the reasons why. It’s not the same in every single country, but the shift is happening in favour of the plaintiffs, in the name of privacy, even when the scene was recored or snapped in a public space.

in France (my country) and in Germany it’s obvious that this trend is now in favour of the plaintiff when a few years ago its was still in favour of the photographer or videographer.

Nowadays, imho, no photographer/videographer in the EU should take the risk to publish any image of an identifiable person without having the written permission to do so from that very person (and that authorisation should also mention where it will be published and if the person should expect any compensation, and how much it is if there is any to be given). Street photography/videography in the EU is turning or already has depending the country, in a real booby trapped activity no matter if you’re doing it as hobbyist and not as a pro.

France, where I live, and Germany and two of those EU-ccountries where I would not take any picture and publish them without a written permission — and I’ve been doing street photography in France as a hobby for the last 30 years or so. The risk is too real to get into legal troubles. Even in the UK, a country which was alsways more welcoming too street photography (it was clear no one should expect any privacy while in a public space), things have started to shift. Add to that the complexity layer of the many ‘not public’ or ‘not entirely public spaces’ mixed within the public space, plus the terrorist or safety considerations, regulations or exception-rules and you get the real mess we’re in. It’s still much better in the UK, though, but well, like I said street photo is a hobby for me, not something I’m willing to take any risk or worry for (lawyers are expensive and my time is much more precious than money). So, I gave up on street photography almost completely. Instead, I started to… sketch street scenes.

Edit: clarifications.

Sorry, I replied to the wrong comment.

My bank offers both an app and a website which is nice, but the app is mandatory for doing any kind of operation involving money (which is not that uncommon when logged-in in your bank accounts ;) even when connecting through their website, as the app is used for some ID-ing process.

Then, there are a few not-mandatory but such-an-effing-pain-to-not-use apps, say to ID oneself with some (public) services.

I use a dumbed down iPhone (like, really: no social, no games, no whatever not even email is configured on it) just so I can access those few apps.

I’ve seen this in various threads on Lemmy. I’m sure Kagi has some cool features, but I don’t know how any search engine can overcome the walled garden effect that is plaguing the internet today. The data just isn’t out there to be curated anymore, it’s locked behind the hedges of the different sites.

I think search might have been killed.

I 'm pretty sure you’re 100% right and that’s where we’re heading. It has already started but we’re not there, yet.

I’m convinced too that in a not too distant future I’ll be witnessing (and I’m 50+ year-old) almost all content will be put behind pretty and comfy walls but walls nonetheless, with doors and locks on them we wont own the keys (btw, that’s the reason why I completely quit posting on reddit, as I explained here I refuse them putting any walls around the only valuable stuff they have ever owned, our content). But we’re not there, yet. I mean, the Web is still not that walled garden and, so far, Kagi has also been working more than fine (they even try promoting an alternative, for example with their ‘small web’ feature).

How it is working now is the reason why I’m (was paying? As I’ve yet to decide to renew, in less than two days). I pay for how fine kagi is working today, not how it will be working in the future. The day they stop being relevant, I’ll stop using them (like I quit using Google search many years ago). Will I be sad? No idea, what I know is that I’ll be a lot more sad for what the Web will have finally turned into.

Imho, as of now, Kagi is simply too small for the big sites or for the other engines to be worth worrying with them.

At this time there are less than 35k paying members/users (they publish their stats but seeing how some people can be jerk when one is mentioning their appreciation for a paid product I think it’s safer to not share a link. It should be easy to find, though). Considering their size, I imagine it’s not like they represent a threat to anyone’s business. They’re just a tiny, tiny alternative, and a paying one at that! Something that will not help them grow fast, if at all.

The OP asked:

How to You Research Vet Products on the Post AI internet?

That is was what I answered to. That said, I agree my answer is not ‘Vet’ specific. So, maybe I was wrong in explaining why I decided to use a paid search engine in order to get usable, quick, not AI-infested and as topic specific as I want them to be results? I don’t think so, but anyone is welcome to disagree.

Also, not being native English speaker I considered the OP ‘Vet Products’ was referring to ‘veterinany products’ (something I could ignore in my suggestion as being a tad too specific), was I wrong?

That being said, I sincerely want to thank you for taking the time to tell me your point of view as, since I posted my comment earlier I was a bit perplexed by the few downvotes it received. Now, I get it or maybe I still don’t, but at the very least I have some clue why it’s happening :)

Edit: rephrased the first sentence in a more correct English. Hopefully.

Would upvote this suggestion more tan once, if I could.

Reddit, and hopefully Lemmy will get there too ;)

Also, I quite like using Kagi search engine (paid) for its neat features. Things like

• No Ads and no SEO to ruin the results.
• Blocking/Lowering/Raising certain domains from the search results. So, I never have to even see the name of those turd websites that specialise in SEO-optimized or AI-vomited non-content.
• Small Web, which only search small websites
• Lenses (to focus search on certain type of content/websites)
• Bangs and a few other more usual stuff one may also find in other search engines.
• They also have optional AI-stuff, if that is your thing.

I’ve been using Kagi for almost a full year (it is supposed to renew in a couple days) and I’ve been loving every instant using it. Like really.

That said, it’s not cheap. Here in Europe (I live in France), it’s 130€ a year (tax-included) for their second-best plan, and I have not yet decided to renew because of that cost. So, the last couple weeks I’ve been forcing myself to use the search engines I used before Kagi to see how well it went (startpage & qwant, mainly). And, yeah, I already miss Kagi a lot ;)

Je ne connais pas. Cela dit, quelle que soit la chanson/musique d’ambiance diffusée c’est une des principales raisons qui fera que je ne remettrai plus les pieds dans cette boutique.

Quand je veux faire du shopping, ce n’est pas écouter de la musique qu’elle soit de Beethoven ou d’ascenseur. Et quand je souhaite écouter de la musique, je préfère écouter celle que j’aime, et que j’ai dans mon appareil, et je préfère le faire dans mes écouteurs pour ne pas embêter tout le monde autour de moi avec ma toute dernière compilation des meilleures musiques d’ascenseur ;)

Simplified and with a lot of user power and user freedom abdicated to a few companies, or to a few groups of developers working together, in order to make things much simpler and much more optimised for the average user.

I mean, suffice to see how often people can be completely lost when they’re asked to decide between clicking either the OK or the Cancel button, or use a simple drop down menu, or decide if they should even be bothered with their privacy at all when using any app as long as it is free and shiny… As it is, Linux stands no-chance against that with its many quirks, workarounds, with its sudo pacman -s or sudo apt install, and with its focus on freedom and privacy. No matter how excellent those tools can be, and no matter how important freedom and privacy should be.

As a non-US user myself, beside the lack of participation on Lemmy, I think the kind of replies and the instant escalation to this comment, in this very thread is a great example of why Lemmy can suck, hard.

The world, exactly like the Internet, does not end at the US borders.

And yep, even though many US citizens seem to be on the verge of slicing each other throats, it doesn’t mean the rest of the world should behave the same. Lemmy users should still be able to discuss freely even between people of varying opinions, or even of completely opposite opinions.

Pourquoi pas.

Je me demande s’ils ne devraient pas faire un truc similaire pour les restaurants parisiens? Je veux dire, la quantité de restau qui n’en sont plus et se contentent de réchauffer des plats préparés de façon industrielle. Et je ne parle pas seulement dans les coins touristiques de la ville. C’est déprimant.

Si je veux vraiment bouffer de la merde industrielle, je peux en acheter tout seul comme un grand, On en trouve des piles des piles en barquettes de plastique (en plus de bouffer de la merde, si on jetait encore un peu plus de plastique dans la nature?) dans n’importe quel super marché ou supérette. En plus, ça me coûtera moins cher, je ne serai pas forcé de manger dans une salle bruyante, naufragé sur mon minuscule coin de table perdu au milieu d’autres sardin… pardon, clients.

Peut-être faire une liste des adresses où la nourriture est encore cuisinée pour de vrai et pas juste rechauffée, ce serait un bon début?

Unfortunately, calling police in America may put you in danger. It’s one of the many, many reasons I’ve left. I don’t think people quite understand what it does until they’ve lived in other, safer places.

That is not how the system is supposed to work. I never went to the USA and probably never will (there are a lot of reasons and people that would make me want to go mind you, but there are also way too many things I’m just not OK with). So, like I said I really can’t tell but if that is like you say, that’s very problematic.

I mean, there must be some legal authority to call for help. Self-defence, adding violence to already too much violence, can’t be the only solution a State has to offer to threatened citizens. If that was, what use would there be in such a State?

Real Marseille soap (savon de Marseille, as we say here in France) is a great 100% natural soap that is not agressive to the skin. But beware if you try to buy some, as there is a vast majority of cheap knock-off edit: that aren’t Marseille soap at all.