My girlfriend pretty much shoved me into the fitting rooms the first time I went to buy a skirt… I was so very nervous showing the gal on the door the one item to try on.

Fast forward a bit and I had a lovely experience at the Levi store … was looking for a new pair of jeans for a holiday. As I was looking at the various cuts I was unsure wear to pick up, as I wanted something more form fitting. My partner said that the female cut has very little crotch area though, so potentially an issue there… so was looking in the men’s section.

Assistant in the store came over and offered help. I somewhat shyly mentioned that I was looking for someone a little tighter on the skin, and mentioned “I have a masc pair already” … their eyes pretty much lit up “Well you won’t find what you want on this side of the store” and pretty much dragged me over to the women’s section, and started pulling bits off the shelf and holding them up to me.

“Well this is pretty much the equivalent of a mens 34 waist, what do you wear normally?”

“Well my femme size in my clothing is usually a 16…”

Again a slight grin… before rushing me over to the cubicles to try on the items they picked out…

A very good eye they had… picked out a pair so comfy and I felt really good in. Was also just such an affirming experience.

Trying to explain nonbinary to people is so frustrating.

Only slightly more frustrating is not knowing oneself from one moment to the next.