A friend recently called my adhd a disease and it got me extremely angry and hurt. They didn’t have bad intentions, I don’t think they think that I need to be “cured” but it probably came from a more ignorant perspective.
But how do you feel about it? How would you handle that situation?
To me calling it a disease implies that my neurodivergence is wrong, that I should seek some sort of cure, which I find stupid and mostly laughable, but I guess hearing it from them hit some nerve and it felt like a personal attack. As if they were saying that as long as I have adhd I am not okay and that my struggles are my fault for not seeking a cure.
Just somehow it instantly made me so hurt and angry and I couldn’t help but feel insulted and small.
I had one person try to tell me that because I, like many people with ADHD, tend to be good in a crisis.
Apparently they were not listening to anything I said because that is the only upside. And it’s not a very big upside. Everything else about having ADHD is bad. I’m honestly not sure how you get from “I can’t focus on anything, relax, or regulate my own emotions” to calling ADHD a “superpower.”
It is a horrible disorder that I would not wish on anyone and it has brought me nothing but misery. The only reason I’m happy and well adjusted now is because of medication.