I’m completely and utterly burnt out of education, and queer anyway. I live in shithole, US and am desperate to move.

I am very good at math and science, and explaining how to do math to people. I have fairly severe ASD adjacent symptoms at the moment, eye contact is difficult and off putting tics or body posture are just not something I can’t avoid atm. This is a burnout phase, which I experience cyclically and is also related to periods of high stress.

I want a 9-5 with health insurance. I am hopelessly in forever debt, but live poor as shit anyway. I would like to move out of my shithole before they put on “f” on my drivers license. I have a decent size library that I want to transport to wherever I move.

I’ve had severe executive function breakdown related to actual physical torture and other things. What I am looking for is a path to owning a small home in a place that is welcoming to trans people and a job that requires less planning and more in the moment tasks. I have no desire to be wealthy, but I want a house with my name on it that no one can ever kick me out of.

I can program, I can read fast, I can pick up a lot of skills very quickly. I have a BA, BS, and most of an MS. I just can’t organize. I can’t plan out my to-do lists. I need something very difficult and interesting for someone to point me at.

  • foggy@lemmy.world
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    23 days ago

    It’s game theory, so a little math and a little of this and that.

    Are you young and healthy? Easy bet.

    Are you middle aged and struggling? Difficult bet.

    Are you old and in poor health? Easy bet.

    Etc.

  • Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org
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    23 days ago

    You can’t have it all.

    For example, there are countries that honor human rights very good, 100 times better than Usa for example, and everybody is like a king there. But where everybody is a king, there are no servants. Everybody earns average, with healthcare included, but only basic, and nobody gets rich. Appartement, not house. You have to be organized. You have to clean up yourself etc. and nobody looks after you.

    For example, there are countries where you can be rich, and feel special, and have a nice house with several poor servants who take care of all your shit. But you can’t be trans there, and only bad guys are rich there, and you can’t be chronically ill or special needs, and maybe you can’t even originate from Usa.

    And then there are countries where you really don’t want to go.

    I recommend to get some of your issues solved and become stronger and then think again about moving.

    • Deceptichum@quokk.auEnglish
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      23 days ago

      What country in the world doesn’t have rich people and everyone lives comfortably in the “middle”?

      • Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org
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        23 days ago

        I did not say that being rich were the same as getting rich.

        I did not say that anyone likes the average.

  • Fisherswamp@programming.dev
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    23 days ago

    If you can program, then there are remote jobs (although they are competitive) that can pay well. I dont want to dox myself, but the company I work for as a software engineer is trans-friendly and remote. What kind of experience do you have? I can try to submit a referral for you

  • MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    23 days ago

    If you are good at math and can program please look at being a cyberzwcurity professional. Its really good pay amd the more certifications you have the better the pay. You cam work 100% remotely and mo e to anywhere ypu want.

  • x4740N@lemm.ee
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    21 days ago

    I’m going to say it

    GET THE FUCK OUT OF AMERICA

    If you’re unsure just do it, your life is more worth it than living in a shithole where you could be murdered or treated inhumanly just for existing

    • andros_rex@lemmy.worldOP
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      21 days ago

      If I had the final resources and executive functioning to do so, I would.

      I have already experienced torture. The apartment I have right now is the first time in the thirty-ish years of my life that I have not been under the control of an abusive and dangerous person.

      I can’t make my brain work enough to finish the 2 hour class I need for my masters. I can barely make it work to find another job, so I can get health insurance, and afford the help making my brain work.

  • driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br
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    23 days ago

    Do you know about actuarial sciences? Is maths, they kinda hard but they are fun, the day to day job is basically programming. Is a really high paid job and of you want ro leave the US, you would be able to work anywhere on the world because actuarians are missed everywhere and you’re going to have top health insurance and benefits.

    I’m an actuarie, I came back to collage to study it 8 years ago at 32yo and now I have a really good paid job, full health insurance for me, my wife and our cats. The home office is 3 home/2 office.

    I don’t know about the trans experience being cis myself, but I know a really good trans actuarie with a senior position in KPMG that I had the pleasure of being audited by her and it was nice.

    The main contras of this job is that is in the financial sector, or worst in health insurance. I would love to get a job on our regulatory body, or in the judicial system (as an actuarial auditor), but those jobs are few and really hard to get (you basically need to be a lawyer on top of an actuarie).

  • jqubed@lemmy.world
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    23 days ago

    Have you considered accounting/bookkeeping? My wife has done it before and it’s not necessarily the most exciting work but typically pays pretty decent. She says it can be interesting trying to track down what is preventing the books from balancing.

    • andros_rex@lemmy.worldOP
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      23 days ago

      Do you have to have a certification? I’ve done some accounts payable type stuff before, I just don’t know how to approach that field.

      • WhiteOakBayou@lemmy.world
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        23 days ago

        Not to do it once but to do it for hour after for a hour whole tournament leaves a lot of room mistakes! That’s what separates the wheat from the chaff.

        • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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          23 days ago

          If your poker table isn’t dealing a whole deck every hand, you should find a new table.

          Blackjack is for counting cards, because they use a continuous sleeve of decks. For poker, you have to read people.

    • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      23 days ago

      I think it’s a truism among professional gamblers that playing poker is a hard way to make an easy living.

  • bitofarambler@crazypeople.online
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    23 days ago

    hi, I’ve been living abroad for 15 years or so.

    if you want to move, you should move.

    most countries have a very low cost of living, so you can teach math or English abroad(what I usually recommend for first time travelers who want money) and save thousands per month, in a country like Thailand, which is very welcoming to trans people and has great, affordable medical care.

    if you can get any remote programming job that pays more than $500 US a month, you can live abroad and immediately start saving any income over that 500, which covers your own apartment and food for the month.

    and it is awesome out here in the world, btw.

    you can live and save abroad for a couple years and if for whatever reason you want to go back to the US and buy a house, you’ll have the money to do that.

    I’ve helped other people move and would be happy to go into any details you’re curious about.