ddg is my therapist
Your therapist said that?
He said ‘I’ll see you next week’
Ok. See you next week then.
Not gonna lie, that really helps. The fact that you think I’ll be around next week is a huge help. 🤷🏻♂️
My therapist’s words, not mine. I don’t have a horse in that fight
They tried to figure out which one of my sensory issues is tied to which one of my traumata. I’m autistic.
Go for a walk, be mindful of your surroundings
That’ll be $300
Girl I have a $120 bill that is going to bankrupt me at the moment, you ain’t getting shit from me.
That’s fine, we aren’t accepting new patients right now anyways
Last therapist I talked to asked me what my problems were. I said they’re personal and I have a hard time talking about them. He essentially said “alright not much we can do then” and ended the meeting. This was after about 2 weeks of waiting for the appointment too. I haven’t bothered looking for another therapist.
They don’t care about me. They care about the money I give them.
i mean, what did you want them to do? slice your head open and dig around manually until they find the Bad Thoughts?
It’d be nice if they didn’t give up in 2 minutes.
I had a friend in college who shopped around between all the available therapists and finally decided on the one she had the best rapport with. I know there are wait times and other difficulties, but it goes a long way to find somebody you click with.
Your life is the way it is because you’ve decided that it’s more comfortable to leave it that way than to change it.
Srsly years and years of therapy this was the only thing that did anything for me
Amen. I said screw it, saved money and moved to Korea. Happiest 3 years of my life.
(It was uncomfortable as crap and I missed a lot of things back home - funerals, weddings, friends growing older and moving away… But no regret. Gotta live life)
I put together a website a while back:
I’d make more of an effort to distribute it if I was happier with it. in particular I think it needs simpler language.
Check out some DBT / cbt techniques on YouTube or the like, whatever is easiest to access, find some that resonate with you and make them your own / tweak them so they fit your life / vibe.
I did a DBT course, and while I hated every minute of it, a lot of it is super great and hugely helpful for coping in hard moments and a great recipe for a way of living that’s more calm and balanced. I feel like I hated the DBT course I did because the people presenting it had never even stumbled on a rock in their lives, let alone lived through a hard moment and needed any of this stuff for real, and their privilege read as saccharine condescension.
BUT! I’m never one to throw the baby out with the bath water, I believe you can turn anything to your advantage or upskill or just build knowledge, if you’re industrious enough! You take those muthafking lemons and you make champagne, fk them. Plus they just mostly showed us clips on YouTube, so lol. The DBT course I did felt more like the break room from severance, having to admit how faulty you are and how this new enlightening thing they just told you seconds ago is going to benefit your life, as they announce each section. They didn’t even give you time to process, let alone leave room for if that was something you already knew or already utilized, but, I powered through and just paid lip-service, got my upskill, moved on.
Easier path, just look up DBT on YouTube, find people explaining what you like, give it a go on a regular basis.
think about all of the shit that makes life suck. think about the things that make you miserable. now imagine ✨pouring your love✨ on those things like a great big waterfall.
…what do you mean that didn’t help? you aren’t cured now?? welp, that’s all we have time for. see you again in two weeks.
“I’m sorry but I have to respond to an emergency. Please see reception about rescheduling your appointment.”
My father once said don’t stick your dick in crazy.
It’s one of the more true and less offensive things he told me.
Headspace app, omega 3 supplements, amphetamine, CPAP machine
Go live your life. Make some mistakes worth talking about then come back.
Still working on it. Turns out all the stuff I was so scared to do with my life wasn’t so dangerous after all.
If feeling overwhelmed, do the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method.
Find and make note of:
- 5 things you see
- 4 things you touch
- 3 things you hear
- 2 things you can smell
- 1 thing you can taste/recall tasting
And the idea with this is to stop dwelling on your negative spiral, and to focus on immediate surroundings.
Therapist also said to feel free to mix and match the sense with the number. For example, I don’t have a good sense of smell, so I do 2 things I can taste/remember tasting, and 1 thing I can smell.
I was taught this for panic attacks, except it’s hard to remember what to do when in the midst of a panic attack. Then I’d just get a bit distracted trying to remember which sense came next, mission failed successfully?
It is, and that’s okay! My therapist said that even if I could only remember two of the five senses to just switch between the two for all of 5-4-3-2-1 until I calm down! It is the act of this thing, and not necessarily the perfection of executing it!
I can’t heal you. You have to learn how to manage your situation. That I would be glad to help you with.
I know she said it differently but that’s how I remember it. I’ve never been so terrified in my life but she helped me (so far) to get really excited for change.
Maybe a change of scenery will do you some good.
