like being told to “move my fat ass” or just plain annoying and then telling me they were joking.

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    8 days ago

    Schrödinger’s asshole. It’s testing boundaries. If you say something, they’ll claim it was just a joke. If you don’t they’ll keep going and likely get worse.

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      8 days ago

      Damn it, beat me to it. Nip it in the bud/butt. Tell them you’re what you’re not ok “joking” about or being attacked (either at all or what topics are off limits).

      You need to set the rules or standards of engagement and let them make the choice to sef-filter themselves out of your life if they choose to ignore the rules you’ve implicitly and explicitly given fair warning about

      Show people how to treat you I guess I’m saying. If you dont set standards for yourself, others will fill the vacuum with their own which is not custom made for you