Fro some reason without paying much attention to the time duration it took a friend to reply I always end up replying within the same amount of time as my friends without thinking much of it, then I’ll see the time they sent the message.

If a friend replies in an hour I typically respond probably subconsciously in an hour (plus or minus 10 minutes), then realize it took them an hour after I respond. Idk why.

Is this something “normal”? Does anyone else do this?

  • mommykink@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    I think most people do it, too. Probably just one of those weird human things.

    On one hand, it’s a bad to look “desperate” and on the other hand, I assume that if they’re taking a while to respond, they’re probably busy and I should hit them up later.

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      it’s a bad to look “desperate”

      I see this from time to time, and really all I can think is “do people really think like this?”

      I work from home and a lot of times while waiting for CI I take a look at my phone and oftentimes I get texts and respond immediately.

      Who is it exactly that would perceive this as desperate? I’m not going to hide the fact I was at my phone when I was just to make people think higher of me, and I really don’t understand this thinking at all.

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        I agree with what you’re saying. if you just happen to be on the phone when someone texts, there’s no problem in answering immediately.

        I don’t think anyone is “desperate” is they reply quick. I just think they replied quick.

        If I think they’re busy and don’t wanna interrupt, then they’ll just read the message at their own time. Don’t see any reason to play these games.

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          8 days ago

          Me neither. I don’t expect texting to be instant either and basically have the same attitude you do.

          I remember for the longest time family would be angry that I texted them at night, and I’d always think to myself “then just respond later?”