I want to share it, but I’m not sure where.

  • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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    No man needs a special place for help

    Wow you really don’t see what a shitty way of thinking this is, do you?

    Which is why the vast majority of “safe spaces” explicitly and only for men, quickly devolve into incel shit.

    Man fuck this mentality. The myth that if you put enough men together in one place that they will automatically start becoming toxic is the exact reason why men need safe spaces from people like you who spread this sort of hateful rhetoric.

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      5 months ago

      The myth that if you put enough men together in one place that they will automatically start becoming toxic is

      Not what I’m talking about about.

      I’m saying men can just use the “default” ways to get help.

      So while a “men only” safe space may start out beneficial, eventually more and more extreme views will be oresented. Which over time will drive off the normal men who started the community.

      Because they still have default paths for help.

      This concentrates the crazy, as more normals leave, it moves the tone of the space, which leads to either more normal men leaving, or staying and becoming radicalized.

      And even the ones that leave later, are leaving a little worse than they showed up. They’re taking that change of tone back out in public. And effecting the default tone as well

      I understand where you’re coming from, but you’re not thinking it all the way thru.

      Good intentions, bad plans.

      And this isn’t my hypothetical either, this is how most incel communities are created.

      I’ll find a source and edit it in if you haven’t replied yet.

      Edit:

      I can’t find a source on it now.

      But what I’m remembering was a discussion on how the literal r/mensrights sub became so radicalized.

      It started out with decent normal men who were discussing things like custody rights.

      But because they wanted it to be about men’s right and empowerment in general, they let people talk about other stuff. As more and more extremists showed up, the original members slowly left. It was a “frog boil” where those extremist views slowly became the default.

      The more I think about it, the more I think it might be like a John Oliver or Jon Stewart segment and not an article.

      But trying to search isn’t getting me anything, if I specify the sub in the search, I just get results from the sub about bullshit.

      So hopefully my explanation makes sense.

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          5 months ago

          The reddit sub femaledatingstrategy?

          As far as I know, aren’t they just incels without Y chromosomes?

          And probably the second best example for what I’m talking about with extremism taking over a “safe space”.

          I’d assume it didn’t start out like that, but the more extremism was tolerated, the more prevealant it became and the more normal people left, concentrating the extremism until it dominated the community.

          Considering everything in this thread I’ve said, why would you assume if I didn’t like one flavor of extremism I’d have to like the extremism of the other side?

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            Well, I suppose you’re more even-handed than I assumed. Usually when I pose this question I get hamstering on why FDS is fine whilst men shouldn’t be given spaces. It’s good to see someone have consistent views on the matter.