• Malle_Yeno@pawb.social
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    3 months ago

    I feel embarrassed to say this, but I straight up have to use reminders to go “hey, talk to X person” and set them up in advance. Because otherwise our chats will just be me going “happy birthday” or “happy new year” and that’s it for the year.

    It’s not that my friends aren’t important to me, its just that it never occurs to me naturally to be the one reaching out. Can’t tell if I’m a bad friend or if I just have zero object permanence for people lmao

    • Ms. ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml
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      3 months ago

      You’d fit in great with everyone in Seattle. It’s expected here that you never talk to people you know ever, except maybe a happy birthday during a Monday lunch break you’re trying to justify extending a few minutes

    • rozwud@beehaw.org
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      2 months ago

      I’m the same way! I think it’s because I’m friends with enough full on extroverts that my social battery fills up without me trying before I ever reach the point of thinking, “Hey, I’d like to chat / hang out with someone. I should reach out.”